Punctuality Is Necessary Or Overrated? #FridayReflections

Punctuality Is Necessary Or Overrated? #FridayReflections

Punctuality Is Necessary Or Overrated? That’s a question I’ve often asked myself. I’m quite a fan of punctuality. However, I see a lot of people are not and they seem to get away with being late. They make it their norm, and most people seem to accept it.

Here’s an unsent letter I wrote to an ex-colleague whose disrespect for punctuality caused me endless tension.

Punctuality Is Necessary Or Overrated?

Dear Lateefa

You were late again today…nothing new about it, except that this time it really made me mad. This is the about the tenth time that I’ve had make excuses to a client on your behalf. Needless, to say he didn’t buy my excuses…and that made me look and feel stupid. But then you came in to his office, all charm and laughter and immediately he forgot that you had been late and gave us the contract anyway. Another reason for you to say ‘Punctuality is over rated’, right? Easy for you to say, when you’ve got stupid old me around to make excuses on your behalf. What if I had got delayed too? But then it’s not likely to happen, so we’ll never know, will we? 

I’m not likely to be late because I take the trouble to get all the preliminary work/printouts done the night before, get up on time,  factor in the bad traffic in Mumbai and leave well in time to reach the clients’ office at least 10 minutes before the appointed time. I don’t know how you do it – but you always have a problem with your printer, your alarm (do you even use one?) doesn’t go off, your tyre gets punctured, you get caught in a couple of traffic jams and you are at least ten minutes late for a meeting – on your good days.

You tell me that it’s not a sign of disrespect to me or the clients. I disagree. It is a sign of arrogance to think our time is not as important as your life. Let me point you in the direction of a book by Andrea Perry Isn’t It About Time: How to Stop Putting Things Off And Get On With Your Life (perhaps I’ll get you a copy as a Christmas present to me!). Allow me to quote: 

“I don’t really agree with the idea that late people don’t mean to be rude,” says Perry. “Clearly when one person is habitually late, they are regarding themselves more than those they are keeping waiting. They wouldn’t be ten minutes late for President Obama. So be aware of who you are late for, and why.” You get it?

To my mind, punctuality is a sign that you have self-respect, that you love your job and that you have respect for others. The only thing that is overrated is your supposed charm…It’s wearing thin, buddy. So the next time you’re late, will be the last time we’ll work together. Hope you get this – on time!

Your always-5-minutes-ahead-of-time colleague

#FridayReflections

It’s Friday today and although Sanchie Vee and I had decided to take a break from #FridayReflections through April, I decided to it slightly differently. I’m putting up a linky – and asking you to write on any of the older prompts that you may have liked and missed. I’ll have the same linky up all month through, just on fresh posts. Also, I’m asking for a link back to my blog in your post to prevent people who are writing ‘off prompt’ from adding their links.

If you want to know more about #FridayReflections and find prompts to write on, I’ve created a page with the ‘rules’ and the prompts. So go ahead and have a ball. Remember, to link up here so we can all enjoy your writing.

This post is in response to the prompt from 2 September 2016 -Are you someone who is always on time, running late or early? Does it even matter?


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12 Incredible Traits of the Happiest People

12 Incredible Traits of the Happiest People

My word for 2017 is ‘Happy’ and though I’ve not written much about it, I’m constantly aware of this. So I was very happy to have Olivia Norton offer to do a guest post on the very subject and the 12 Incredible Traits of the Happiest People.

Happiness is universal. It defines no boundaries, race, culture, age, gender and social status. Although its definition seems so general, not all people have it.

How can you achieve happiness without much effort? Happy people practice certain habits and possess such traits that you can also acquire to find happiness.

12 Incredible Traits of the Happiest People

Below are characteristics of people who find happiness and peace in their lives:

1. They are committed to their goals.

Happiness is not easy to find, however, happy people know how to search for it. They aim high and dream big. They set up goals to make their aspirations happen. After setting up their goals, they find ways to attain it. They never stop pursuing their goals until they achieve it.

2. They let go of bitterness.

Happy people know how to forgive and forget. They never keep grudges because it is a barrier to their happiness. Bitterness absorbs negative emotions such as resentment, anger and pain. Letting go of bitterness means you allow the positive things to come in and the negative things to go.

3. They appreciate the moment.

Happy people would never let the present time just passed. They appreciate each moment because they know how precious time is. They pay attention to every detail and are not in a hurry to just let the day end without doing anything special. Even in bad times, they would face it, no matter how hard it is.

4. They let go of what they can’t control.

Happy people know their boundaries. They focus their efforts only on important things and to those that they can control.

5. They thrive during the hard times.

Happy people don’t give up easily, even in difficult times. They see hardships and failures as a signal to start again. They believe in the saying that “Difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations.”

6. They know how to give more than to take.

Giving for happy people is so natural. They don’t give to get something in return. For them, giving makes them happy as they see other people happy. They don’t expect anything in return when they give.
7. They are thankful. Happy people are grateful for everything they have. They appreciate the little things around them. Grateful people have less stress and are able to cope up with anything. They also possess more positive emotions.

8. They are kind.

Happy people know how to share kindness. They help others, even in simple ways. Sometimes, they even leave themselves just to see other people happy.

9. They cultivate healthy relationships.

They just don’t have a connection. They build strong connections with their loved ones. When they allow others in their lives, they know how to protect, respect and love them. These things make them happy.

10. They nurture their mind and body.

It’s so impossible for someone to be happy when the physical or mental state is not in good condition. This is why happy people possess this trait. They know how to take care of their own mind and body by living a healthy lifestyle.

11. They are happy to be with happy people.

Toxic people can drain your energy. Happy people boost it. If you want to be truly happy, be with people who know how to laugh, joke, smile and appreciate life. When you hang with happy people, you’re more likely to get the same positive vibes that they create.

12. They can withstand discomfort.

Happy people don’t just appreciate the good times. In fact, they face the bad times; even it brings uneasiness and discomfort. They are willing to be there at that moment because they know that soon it would be over.

Olivia Norton has been writing for over 10 years, specializing on niches, including life, addiction recovery especially about treatment for cocaine addiction and health. Aside from her busy work, she also balances her time between family, business and seeking new adventures.

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The 7 Benefits Of Prayer

The 7 Benefits Of Prayer

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that this being Easter, I’ve been thinking and meditating and yes, even praying. Prayer can be tasking for those who don’t believe or don’t who don’t see the value of it. Prayer is an intimate way of being one with the Lord. It is our means of communication to our God. More than just being in the presence of God, prayers have many benefits. Here are 7 benefits of prayer:

The 7 Benefits Of Prayer

#1 Answer

“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.” -Luke 11:9-10.

Prayers enable you to ask for what your heart desires. And when you do, God answers, albeit often quite differently from what you want. He instead gives you what you need. Unanswered prayers are often the best prayers of all.

#2 Healing

There are many incidents in the Bible when Jesus healed the sick.  We have access to God’s healing through prayers. The Koran too speaks of the healing power of God.

Mankind there has come to you a guidance from your Lord and a healing for (the diseases) in your hearts, and for those who believe a guidance and a mercy. – Koran

#3 Joy

It’s amazing how a simple prayer can lift our spirits up. It is impossible not to feel better after praying. There is something about prayers that drives away sadness and replace it with joy.

#4 Clarity

Prayer clears your mind because focusing on the Higher Power sets your perspective right. You focus on what is relevant and what is not becomes plain.

Prayers are tools not for doing or getting, but for being and becoming.
Eugene H Peterson

#5 Strength

When troubled, prayers can give us strength. It is being aware that we have a big God who takes care of us and He will lift you up when you’re down.

#6 Protection

The whole Psalm 91 is a prayer for protection. It reminds us how we are kept safe under God’s wings.

“A thousand may fall at your side, and ten thousand at your right hand; but it shall not come near you. Only with your eyes shall you look, and see the reward of the wicked. Because you have made the LORD, who is my refuge even the Most High, your dwelling place, No evil shall befall you, nor shall any plague come near your dwelling; For He shall give His angels charge over you, to keep you in all your ways.”

#7 Peace of mind

Prayer keeps worries away. Prayers remind us Who is in charge of everything so we can sleep soundly at night.

“May all be prosperous and happy
May all be free from illness
May all see what is auspicious
May no one suffer”

“May there be Peace in Heaven, Sky, Earth, Water, Plants, Trees, Gods, in various Worlds; May there be Peace in all. May there be Peace indeed within Peace, Giving me the Peace which grows within me.
Om peace, peace, peace” -Shanti Path, Upanishads

Prayer affects our being more than we think. It transforms us into a better version of ourselves.

When you pray, you are not changing the heart of God, He is changing yours. –Bo Sanchez

Do you believe in prayer?

happy easter weekend

How to Make Your Weekend Meaningful  #FridayReflections

How to Make Your Weekend Meaningful #FridayReflections

You can feel it. It’s almost here. The most awaited time of the week…it’s the weekend!!! Finally, a break from all the grinding you did in the past 5 days. What to do? You can let it past like nothing or you can make your weekend meaningful.

How to Make Your Weekend Meaningful

People over things

You work hard for your loved ones. When you’ve got time to be away from work, what could make your weekend meaningful than spending it with them. Have some quality time with your family. Meet up with friends especially those you haven’t seen for a while. Or if you have pets which you consider as family, bring them to the vet for grooming or go have a run with them. Make your weekend more meaningful by spending it with people and not with things.

Serve

There’s nothing more humbling and fulfilling than giving back. Give back to the environment, to the community and to the world by serving. Volunteer to your local organizations that are dedicated to cleaning and taking care of the planet. Volunteer to a local shelter. Help serve in the orphanage or home for the elderly. Go visit a hospital and give gifts especially to the sick children.

Re-ignite your passion

Your hobby which you’ve been neglecting, go revisit it. Maybe you’re into painting, making crafts, gardening, or playing musical instruments. What’s the one thing that brings fire in your belly? What recharges your soul? What makes you feel alive? The answer to that is your passion. Go re-ignite your passion to make your weekend meaningful.

Travel

You don’t have to go far and spend thousands to enjoy a weekend away. Visit a museum nearby. Visit the nearby city or town you’ve never been to. There is so much to see and enjoy if you just keep your sense of wonder and be open to new things and experience.

Rest

And on the seventh day God finished his work that he had done, and he rested on the seventh day from all his work that he had done. Genesis 2:2

Even God rested when all His work was done. Use your weekend to rest. It may seem sacrilege to the workaholics but that’s how it goes. God shows us that no matter what we do, we need to set aside a time to rest. You’ll be amazed by what rest could do to your being.

Resting will recharge your body and refresh your spirit. Your brains will work better if it has rested. You will instantly feel better and ready for the coming week.

If you want to stay healthy and keep going, don’t neglect what your body needs. It is mostly in the weekend when you can do what you want and need. To make your weekend meaningful is more than just a gratification. It is also a must to for a better, richer life.

#FridayReflections

It’s Friday today and although Sanchie Vee and I had decided to take a break from #FridayReflections through April, I decided to it slightly differently. I’m putting up a linky – and asking you to write on any of the older prompts that you may have liked and missed. I’ll have the same linky up all month through, just on fresh posts. Also, I’m asking for a link back to my blog in your post to prevent people who are writing ‘off prompt’ from adding their links.

If you want to know more about #FridayReflections and find prompts to write on, I’ve created a page with the ‘rules’ and the prompts. So go ahead and have a ball. Remember, to link up here so we can all enjoy your writing.

This post is in response to the prompt from 4 March 2016 – Describe your ideal Sunday.