Know When To Quit A Relationship  #FridayReflections

Know When To Quit A Relationship #FridayReflections

“Sometimes we just have to let things go” is something I’ve come to believe very strongly. This is especially true about relationships. I’ve gone from attempting to force people love and respect me, to choosing to love and respect myself first. I’ve learned to realize when to quit a relationship and thought I’d share my ideas with you.

Know When To Quit A Relationship

We often hold on to people in our lives because we value them and we have learned to love them. But, when to quit a relationship? When to know it’s time to leave someone important? When do you stop letting into your life?

When there is abuse.

The abuse need not to be physical. Abuse comes in different forms; it could be verbal or psychological. It could be when a person keeps on getting from you without giving back. It’s when you feel used up after spending your time with them.

When there is no respect.

Whether it’s relationship with friends or your significant other or even with a relative, respect must always be present. When there is no respect, boundaries are crossed, and your rights as a person are violated. Quit a relationship where respect is not present anymore.

When there is no commitment.

If you’re the only person committed to make the relationship work out, then it’s time to quit. A relationship is a two-way street. It is a partnership. When the other person feels like he’s free to do whatever he wants at your expense, or does not make you a part of his plans, it means he’s not committed to you.

When you’re changing in a bad way.

A relationship should be nurturing. It shouldn’t worsen you or kill you softly. It should bring you joy and not sorrow, because what’s the point of spending your life with a person if it only makes you miserable?

When you hold each other back.

In life, staying stuck is as good as being dead. When your partner or someone in your life keeps you from reaching your goals, it’s time to quit them. When you find yourself holding back your partner from becoming a better person, it’s time to re-evaluate your motives.

What keeps you in a relationship? What is it that makes you think it’s time to leave? If you’re not happy, if you’re not becoming a better version of yourself, maybe it’s time to walk out the door and never come back. Know when to quit a relationship so you can make room for the good people to come into your life.

You might also like to read the digital version of my article from ‘Complete Wellbeing’ : 5 signs that your friend is just pretending to like you.

#FridayReflections

It’s Friday today and although Sanchie Vee and I had decided to take a break from #FridayReflections through April, I decided to it slightly differently. I’m putting up a linky – and asking you to write on any of the older prompts that you may have liked and missed. I’ll have the same linky up all month through, just on fresh posts. Also, I’m asking for a link back to my blog in your post to prevent people who are writing ‘off prompt’ from adding their links.

If you want to know more about #FridayReflections and find prompts to write on, I’ve created a page with the ‘rules’ and the prompts. So go ahead and have a ball. Remember, to link up here so we can all enjoy your writing.

This post is in response to the prompt “Sometimes we just have to let things go” from 3 June 2016.


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I Am A Leo Watch Me Roar #FridayReflections

I Am A Leo Watch Me Roar #FridayReflections


If you’re a regular reader of my writing, you might remember that I’m left-handed. You might also recall that I’m August born, since I’ve talked about my fiftieth birthday a hundred times! Yes, I am a Leo watch me roar.

I’m not a believer in astrology and don’t follow what the stars foretell. But I was first introduced to Linda Goodman’s Sun Signs about twenty odd years ago and to say I found that interesting is an understatement. I love finding out people’s birthdays and see if they fit into the typical characteristics of their sun signs. So it’s only fair that I share mine with you and tell you if the description of a Leo fits me.

I Am A Leo Watch Me Roar

Strengths: Creative, passionate, generous, warm-hearted, cheerful, humorous
Who is going to argue with this? Not me, for sure. It’s for others to say if they disagree with this description of me.

Weaknesses: Arrogant, stubborn, self-centered, lazy, inflexible
If arrogant means opinionated, then I’m certainly owning up to that. I’ve been called a snob sometimes, but anyone who really knows will know that I have no problem talking with people. But I have a huge problem being indebted to other people and will attempt to go out of my way to repay them – so perhaps, that means I am arrogant. I’m also owning up to being stubborn and inflexible at times, lazy too (that’s my second name), but self-centered, I take objection to.

Leo likes: Theater, taking holidays, being admired, expensive things, bright colors, fun with friends
This one is really not me at all. I love pastel shades and am not at all into expensive things. Perhaps, the only part of this that might be me is ‘being admired’ – as in, I thrive on positive feedback, but then, who doesn’t?

Leo dislikes: Being ignored, facing difficult reality, not being treated like a king or queen
I don’t like to be given the silent treatment – that’s the best way to punish me. I’ve struggled with coming to terms with not be understood and accepted by my family, so I guess I do have an issue with facing difficult reality. It’s taken me years to accept this. I don’t think anyone can accuse me of demanding being treated like a Queen. (What say, my dear subjects?)

People born under the sign of Leo are natural born leaders. They are dramatic, creative, self-confident, dominant and extremely difficult to resist, able to achieve anything they want to in any area of life they commit to. There is a specific strength to a Leo and their “king of the jungle” status. Leo often has many friends for they are generous and loyal. Self-confident and attractive, this is a Sun sign capable of uniting different groups of people and leading them as one towards a shared cause, and their healthy sense of humor makes collaboration with other people even easier.

Those of you who know me personally, or at least as much as internet allows you to know me, might agree or disagree with the way I view myself. I’d love to have your thoughts.

#FridayReflections

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away. Sanch of Living My Imperfect Life and I give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up between Friday and Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

Feel free to add our Friday Reflections badge to your post or sidebar! Follow us on Twitter @FridayReflect and join our Facebook Group. Share your post on social media with the hashtag #FridayReflections.

Our featured writer last week was Vanessa for taking up the prompt from the 27th page of her book.  If you want to be our featured writer, all you have to do is write on one of the above prompts and link up below! Come back on Monday to vote for your favourite.

Prompts for 31st March:

1. What’s your star sign? Does it reflect your personality?
2. Pick up the nearest CD or play a random song from your iPod and use the second line in the song to begin your post
3. Write on any of the prompts from March
4. “Life’s under no obligation to give us what we expect.” – Margaret Mitchell. Use this quote in your post or as an inspiration for one.
5. Picture Prompt (Living my Imperfect Life)

 


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Good Is Worth Fighting For  #FridayReflections

Good Is Worth Fighting For #FridayReflections

I’ve sometimes taken the stand that I don’t want to talk about negative things or even consume them – by reading newspapers, watching television or sharing such things on my timeline. However, I realized that it’s not the best of ideas to live life in an ivory tower away from the reality of what’s happening in the world. While I  realize that sharing of political and religious views can lead to arguments and misunderstanding, I do believe that we must take a stand. We must be aware, we must share our views and we must stand up for what we believe in.

This is especially true when we take a stand for the marginalized, the misunderstood and those  bear the brunt of the deeds and choices of some members of their community even when they don’t subscribe to those views. More and more I am convinced that good is worth fighting for.

Good Is Worth Fighting For

In the last 6 months, I’ve had the privilege of working with an organisation that  strongly believes in fighting for good – especially for the rights of children. My daily interactions with men and women who are working to protect and empower children, reaffirms my belief in good in the world.

When I meet an IG of Police who is convinced that every single member of the police force must be trained in Child Sexual Abuse, it makes me less cynical. When I am told that the Chief Justice of a state is ready to meet with children in difficult circumstances and take on board their views, I am inspired.

When I see so many individuals and families make an effort to celebrate their birthdays, spend the days off teaching and being with children who are in care homes, my belief in goodness is reaffirmed.

In the recent past, I’ve watched how people around the world have taken a stand on refugees. Some countries have welcomed them with open arms. People in countries that haven’t, have at personal cost, spoken out for refugees – fighting against their government and public opinion.

“There is some good in this world, and it’s worth fighting for.” – J R R Tolkein

I’m pledging to fight for good. What about you?

#FridayReflections

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away. Sanch of Living My Imperfect Life and Everyday Gyaan give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up between Friday and Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

Feel free to add our Friday Reflections badge to your post or sidebar! Follow us on Twitter @FridayReflect and join our Facebook Group. Share your post on social media with the hashtag #FridayReflections.

Our featured writer/s last week were : Geetika  and Bellybytes for why her blog is named such.. If you want to be our featured writer, all you have to do is write on one of the above prompts and link up below! Come back on Monday to vote for your favourite.

Prompts for 24 March 2017

1. Do you or have you ever collected anything? Share your story
2. Put your iPod on shuffle. List the first 10 songs that play and how you feel about them
3. Pick up the book you are currently reading, go to page 27 and write a post starting with the first line on that page.
4. “There is some good in this world, and it’s worth fighting for.” – J R R Tolkein. Use this quote in your post or as an inspiration for one.
5. Picture Prompt (credit: Living my Imperfect Life)


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Why Everyday Gyaan #FridayReflections

Why Everyday Gyaan #FridayReflections

Today’s prompt invites me to share the background to this blog, so I’m going to reshare with you something that I had upto recently on the homepage which will tell you : Why Everyday Gyaan?

My first choice of a name was Daily Gyaan but I wasn’t able to get the domain and I’m glad it worked that way.

Why Everyday Gyaan?

What’s the meaning behind the name Everyday Gyaan, you might ask? Everyday – talking about things that happen in day to day life…… Gyaan – a Sanskrit word that means ‘wisdom’ or ‘knowledge’. Together they represent what this blog is about – drawing meaning, learning and inspiration from the ordinary and everyday events of life.

What makes Everyday Gyaan?

The Everyday Gyaan journey began in early 2009 and I have been constantly experimenting with my writing and sharing until I sat down one day and decided what I really wanted this site to be about. Everyday Gyaan is all about keeping life simple, authentic and holistic. While I enjoy writing and sharing here, this website acts as guide for me to keep things real. When I share things that are happening in my life, or my perspective on things happening in the world, I want my writing to resonate with you, dear reader.

The Frangipani story….

From quite early, a frangipani flower has adorned the header of this site, simply because I found it so pretty. Later I learnt there was a symbolism behind the  five petals of the flower.  Supposedly they represent five qualities of necessary for psychological perfection: sincerity, faith, aspiration, devotion and surrender. These are qualities I want to have within me and radiate to the world.

Always grateful

I am always grateful for all I have learnt and all the wonderful friends I’ve made through Everyday Gyaan.  Thank you for being one of them!

#FridayReflections

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away. Sanch of Living My Imperfect Life and Everyday Gyaan give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up between Friday and Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

Feel free to add our Friday Reflections badge to your post or sidebar! Follow us on Twitter @FridayReflect and join our Facebook Group. Share your post on social media with the hashtag #FridayReflections.

Everyday Gyaan

Our featured writer last week was Bellybytes for her post on how her strength became a weakness. If you want to be our featured writer, all you have to do is write on one of the above prompts and link up below! Come back on Monday to vote for your favourite.

We look forward to reading your posts. Please attempt to visit and comment on all the posts linked here. Do come back on Monday and vote for your favourites!

Prompts for 17 March 2017

  1. Your most prized possession and why
  2. Top three favourite bands/musicians
  3. The reason behind your blog and its name
  4. “You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us. And the world will live as one.” – John Lennon. Use this quote in your post or as an inspiration for one.
  5. Picture prompt (via http://everydaygyaan.com)


Do You Know Your Lighthouses?  #FridayReflections

Do You Know Your Lighthouses? #FridayReflections

I’ve always wonder how people live without lighthouses? Do you know your lighthouses?

Now before I go on to explain, let me share with you what is purported to be transcript of a US naval ship with Canadian authorities off the coast of Newfoundland, one version of which was used by Stephen Covey to talk about what he called ‘the lighthouse principles’:

Americans: “Please divert your course 15 degrees to the North to avoid a collision.”
Canadians: “Recommend you divert your course 15 degrees to the South to avoid a collision.”
Americans: “This is the captain of a US Navy ship. I say again, divert your course.”
Canadians: “No, I say again, you divert your course.”
Americans: “This is the aircraft carrier USS Abraham Lincoln. The second largest ship in the United States Atlantic Fleet. We are accompanies by three destroyers, three cruisers and numerous support vessels. I demand that you change your course 15 degrees north. That’s one five degrees north, or counter measures will be undertaken to ensure the safety of this ship.”
Canadians: “This is a lighthouse. It’s your call.”

Let’s think of our deepest values – integrity, commitment, love, faith as  lighthouses. They are the beacons that guide our lives. Our decisions are based on our lighthouses.

Do you know your lighthouses?

Thinking about this today, I realized how important it is for people to first of all know what their lighthouses are. In other words, what are the values you live by? 

If you realize what they are and live by them then no threat of attack from outside can shake you. You will remain steadfast. What people say about you won’t matter, you know that you are on the right path.

Looking back on my own experience, I realize that every time I tried to go against my own set of values, it resulted in brokenness for me. When I tried to compromise on things, I found it hard to live – life was meaningless. I was constantly lying to others, but mostly to myself. I couldn’t recognize ‘me’. It was only when I came back to being guided by my ‘lighthouses’ that I began to really live again.

I’ve interacted with people who are extremely confused about what their lighthouses were. They are absolutely lost, with no inner security. Any passing wind can take them away. Being that way must be ever so scary.

Are you aware of what your ‘lighthouses’ are? Are you living by your values?

 

#FridayReflections

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away. Sanch of Living My Imperfect Life and Everyday Gyaan give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up between Friday and Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

Feel free to add our Friday Reflections badge to your post or sidebar! Follow us on Twitter @FridayReflect and join our Facebook Group. Share your post on social media with the hashtag #FridayReflections.

Everyday Gyaan

Last week, our featured writers were Roshan with his post To Hold On To Or Let Go Of (Your Beliefs For The Greater Good) and  Holly for her interesting take on the quote.
You can be our featured writer too. All you need to do is write on one of the prompts and link up below. Remember to read other posts and share the love. Don’t forget to come back on Monday and vote for your favorite post!

Prompts for 10 March 2017

  • I’ve always wondered…
  • Take the VIA Character Strength Survey and talk about your strengths and how it might help you in life
  • What would you do with 10 million dollars
  • “Keep Going. Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep going. Tough situations build strong people in the end.” – Roy T. Bennett. Use this quote in your post or as an inspiration for one.
  • Picture Prompt (via http://www.livingmyimperfectlife.com/)

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Life Goes On And The Lessons Continue #FridayReflections

Life Goes On And The Lessons Continue #FridayReflections


Life goes on and the lessons continue. Oh yes, they do. Some lessons are so tough that we struggle to get them. The good news (although, believe me, it doesn’t always feel like good news) keep getting repeated until we finally get them.

Life Goes On And The Lessons Continue

Reading this quote from the Dalai Lama, got me thinking about the one big life lesson I learned. It took me several years and a lot of heartache, but I think I’ve got it. Yes, tomorrow will be better because today I learned…

Everyone has friends; we all have friends. Friends easy love, easy forgive. But we have our sacred friends. Sacred friends very, very difficult. Chinese government, my sacred friend. Not Chinese people, Chinese government. Chinese people don’t do this; this is Chinese government that does this. The Chinese government is my sacred friend because without the Chinese government doing what they’ve done, I would never have had to evolve my heart to be bigger than the pain they bring.” – Dalai Lama

So here’s a small exercise we can do when dealing with toxic people.

  1. Rename these people as ‘sacred friends’.
  2. Realize that these ‘sacred friends’ are actually helping us to get stronger and make our hearts bigger.
  3. List all the positive qualities these ‘sacred friends’ help us to discover about ourselves.

For me, these are just a couple of ways in which my ‘sacred friends’ have helped me

a. Develop an attitude of gratitude. I realized that if I was grateful for every experience and saw all the pain (despite my ranting and raving at first) as fodder for my growth, I’d be a better person.

b. Trust my intuition and act on it. In the words of Maya Angelou ‘When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.’ I’ve often had some vibes that told me not to trust a certain person. Her actions confirmed this. Yet, I continued to keep her in my circle and trust her, only to be let down again. This ‘sacred friend’ has taught me a lot of about following my intuition.

There’s a lot more I’ve learned about myself and life from my ‘sacred friends’ and for that, I’ll always be grateful.

What’s the life lesson you’ve learned recently?

#FridayReflections

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away. Sanch of Living My Imperfect Life and Everyday Gyaan give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up between Friday and Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

Feel free to add our Friday Reflections badge to your post or sidebar! Follow us on Twitter @FridayReflect and join our Facebook Group. Share your post on social media with the hashtag #FridayReflections.

Everyday Gyaan

Last week, our featured writer was Vanessa for her letter to Anne {of the Green Gables fame}. You can be our featured writer too. All you need to do is write on one of the prompts and link up below. Remember to read other posts and share the love. Don’t forget to come back on Monday and vote for your favorite post!

Prompts for 3 March 2017

1. Write about the best thing that happened to you this week.
2. What’s the one thing you wish others understood about you.
3. Tomorrow will be better because today I learned…
4. “Imagination is the highest form of research” – Albert Einstein. Use this quote in your post or as an inspiration for one.
5. Picture prompt (http://everydaygyaan.com)

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