Do You Know Your Lighthouses?  #FridayReflections

Do You Know Your Lighthouses? #FridayReflections

I’ve always wonder how people live without lighthouses? Do you know your lighthouses?

Now before I go on to explain, let me share with you what is purported to be transcript of a US naval ship with Canadian authorities off the coast of Newfoundland, one version of which was used by Stephen Covey to talk about what he called ‘the lighthouse principles’:

Americans: “Please divert your course 15 degrees to the North to avoid a collision.”
Canadians: “Recommend you divert your course 15 degrees to the South to avoid a collision.”
Americans: “This is the captain of a US Navy ship. I say again, divert your course.”
Canadians: “No, I say again, you divert your course.”
Americans: “This is the aircraft carrier USS Abraham Lincoln. The second largest ship in the United States Atlantic Fleet. We are accompanies by three destroyers, three cruisers and numerous support vessels. I demand that you change your course 15 degrees north. That’s one five degrees north, or counter measures will be undertaken to ensure the safety of this ship.”
Canadians: “This is a lighthouse. It’s your call.”

Let’s think of our deepest values – integrity, commitment, love, faith as  lighthouses. They are the beacons that guide our lives. Our decisions are based on our lighthouses.

Do you know your lighthouses?

Thinking about this today, I realized how important it is for people to first of all know what their lighthouses are. In other words, what are the values you live by? 

If you realize what they are and live by them then no threat of attack from outside can shake you. You will remain steadfast. What people say about you won’t matter, you know that you are on the right path.

Looking back on my own experience, I realize that every time I tried to go against my own set of values, it resulted in brokenness for me. When I tried to compromise on things, I found it hard to live – life was meaningless. I was constantly lying to others, but mostly to myself. I couldn’t recognize ‘me’. It was only when I came back to being guided by my ‘lighthouses’ that I began to really live again.

I’ve interacted with people who are extremely confused about what their lighthouses were. They are absolutely lost, with no inner security. Any passing wind can take them away. Being that way must be ever so scary.

Are you aware of what your ‘lighthouses’ are? Are you living by your values?

 

#FridayReflections

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away. Sanch of Living My Imperfect Life and Everyday Gyaan give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up between Friday and Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

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Everyday Gyaan

Last week, our featured writers were Roshan with his post To Hold On To Or Let Go Of (Your Beliefs For The Greater Good) and  Holly for her interesting take on the quote.
You can be our featured writer too. All you need to do is write on one of the prompts and link up below. Remember to read other posts and share the love. Don’t forget to come back on Monday and vote for your favorite post!

Prompts for 10 March 2017

  • I’ve always wondered…
  • Take the VIA Character Strength Survey and talk about your strengths and how it might help you in life
  • What would you do with 10 million dollars
  • “Keep Going. Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep going. Tough situations build strong people in the end.” – Roy T. Bennett. Use this quote in your post or as an inspiration for one.
  • Picture Prompt (via http://www.livingmyimperfectlife.com/)

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Life Goes On And The Lessons Continue #FridayReflections

Life Goes On And The Lessons Continue #FridayReflections


Life goes on and the lessons continue. Oh yes, they do. Some lessons are so tough that we struggle to get them. The good news (although, believe me, it doesn’t always feel like good news) keep getting repeated until we finally get them.

Life Goes On And The Lessons Continue

Reading this quote from the Dalai Lama, got me thinking about the one big life lesson I learned. It took me several years and a lot of heartache, but I think I’ve got it. Yes, tomorrow will be better because today I learned…

Everyone has friends; we all have friends. Friends easy love, easy forgive. But we have our sacred friends. Sacred friends very, very difficult. Chinese government, my sacred friend. Not Chinese people, Chinese government. Chinese people don’t do this; this is Chinese government that does this. The Chinese government is my sacred friend because without the Chinese government doing what they’ve done, I would never have had to evolve my heart to be bigger than the pain they bring.” – Dalai Lama

So here’s a small exercise we can do when dealing with toxic people.

  1. Rename these people as ‘sacred friends’.
  2. Realize that these ‘sacred friends’ are actually helping us to get stronger and make our hearts bigger.
  3. List all the positive qualities these ‘sacred friends’ help us to discover about ourselves.

For me, these are just a couple of ways in which my ‘sacred friends’ have helped me

a. Develop an attitude of gratitude. I realized that if I was grateful for every experience and saw all the pain (despite my ranting and raving at first) as fodder for my growth, I’d be a better person.

b. Trust my intuition and act on it. In the words of Maya Angelou ‘When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.’ I’ve often had some vibes that told me not to trust a certain person. Her actions confirmed this. Yet, I continued to keep her in my circle and trust her, only to be let down again. This ‘sacred friend’ has taught me a lot of about following my intuition.

There’s a lot more I’ve learned about myself and life from my ‘sacred friends’ and for that, I’ll always be grateful.

What’s the life lesson you’ve learned recently?

#FridayReflections

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away. Sanch of Living My Imperfect Life and Everyday Gyaan give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up between Friday and Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

Feel free to add our Friday Reflections badge to your post or sidebar! Follow us on Twitter @FridayReflect and join our Facebook Group. Share your post on social media with the hashtag #FridayReflections.

Everyday Gyaan

Last week, our featured writer was Vanessa for her letter to Anne {of the Green Gables fame}. You can be our featured writer too. All you need to do is write on one of the prompts and link up below. Remember to read other posts and share the love. Don’t forget to come back on Monday and vote for your favorite post!

Prompts for 3 March 2017

1. Write about the best thing that happened to you this week.
2. What’s the one thing you wish others understood about you.
3. Tomorrow will be better because today I learned…
4. “Imagination is the highest form of research” – Albert Einstein. Use this quote in your post or as an inspiration for one.
5. Picture prompt (http://everydaygyaan.com)

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Make A Difference By Being You  #FridayReflections

Make A Difference By Being You #FridayReflections

There are days when I admire what another person is doing. I’m amazed at how they are living their lives. Amazed at the difference they are making. It’s hard not to think about my life. To compare. To wonder if I’m making any difference at all. What’s the impact my life is having on the world? Am I truly making a difference? How can I do more? Questions, questions……

And they sometimes lead to depression. To negative self-talk. To beating myself up about not doing enough. Telling myself that just living is not enough.

It’s easy to want to be more. To do more. To wonder about my legacy.

Then I realize is what I need to do is to all myself to be ME. I need to start with why.

Make A Difference By Being You

“What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.” – Jane Goodall.

#FridayReflections

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away. Sanch of Living My Imperfect Life and Everyday Gyaan give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up between Friday and Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

Feel free to add our Friday Reflections badge to your post or sidebar! Follow us on Twitter @FridayReflect and join our Facebook Group. Share your post on social media with the hashtag #FridayReflections.

Everyday Gyaan

24 February 2017

  1. The thing I do most often when I’m meant to be doing something else…
  2. Write a letter to a fictional character
  3. Write on any of the prompts given in February
  4. “What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.” – Jane Goodall. Use this quote in your post or as an inspiration for one.
  5. Picture Prompt (everydaygyaan.com)


Grateful For Protection #FridayReflections

Grateful For Protection #FridayReflections

I find peace from knowing that I am loved. I am loved. I’ve always struggled with that. Because I’ve always felt so unlovable. But growing up requires that you face  not just the hard facts about yourself, but it requires that you be honest about everything that makes you You. So while I accept my flaws, the dark places within me, I also see how lovable I am. That honesty lets me receive love. Love covers me. It protects me. Love helps me to realize that despite my poor choices in the past, and continued mistakes in the present, I am protected. And I am always grateful for protection.

Love covers me. It protects me. And I am grateful for protection

 

Celebrate, be grateful for and love yourself, no matter what poor choices you think you have made.
Today is a day for celebrating all your good choices and the things that you have done right.

The truth of the matter is, there is nothing you have done wrong.

Life is filled with ups and downs and forgiveness is the only path to healing.

We learn from each other and we grow.

We become brighter and more beautiful and we grow.

Don’t ever stop growing.

During these turbulent times, all we can do is be responsible for ourselves.

Yes, it is important to serve others but from a position of strength, compassion and love, beginning with you!

It is not selfish to become healthy, happy and a beacon of light.

It is powerful.

It is what the world needs right now, during this very precise moment in time.
– Marylou Falstreau

 

#FridayReflections

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away. Sanch of Living My Imperfect Life and Everyday Gyaan give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up between Friday and Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

Feel free to add our Friday Reflections badge to your post or sidebar! Follow us on Twitter @FridayReflect and join our Facebook Group. Share your post on social media with the hashtag #FridayReflections.

Everyday Gyaan

 

Prompts for 17th February 2017:

1. I’m most grateful for…
2. What scares you most about dying
3. If I had the courage, I would…
4. “We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” – Maya Angelou. Use this quote in your post or as an inspiration for one.
5. Picture Prompt (credit: Living my Imperfect Life)


He Gets Me #FridayReflections

He Gets Me #FridayReflections

Ten years, this year. Yes, that’s how long we’ve been married. We celebrated our anniversary in our quiet way – just the two of us holidaying in Goa – the place we got married in. At the end of ten years, and at the ripe old age of 52, I can say the best part of our marriage is that he gets me! Yes, that’s the biggest blessing, because I’m afraid that most times my family of origin cannot fathom my choices and behavior! They find me a bit too much to handle! Also, I’ve lost quite a few friends over the years because of differences of opinion and the fact  I’ve made not to allow anyone to dictate my choices.

He gets me!

With José it’s easy for me to say what I feel and know that he won’t be shocked. It’s easy to be authentic. He’s not embarrassed by me raising my voice (unlike my Dad who often told me to speak softly) or taking on someone. He gets that I need to stand up for myself.  Quite simply, he gets that I’m an independent woman and gives me the space to be me.

But he also gets my goat! Ha, ha. Yes, today’s prompt is about 5 things about your partner that irritate you and I’m sorry I’m going to throw you under the bus, José.

  1. One of the things that irritates me, is a common problem that I’m sure most women face with their male partners. I dare not share a problem or an issue with him without him starting to give me a solution. Once you understand that men move into problem solving mode because they don’t want you to be hurt or struggle with something, it’s easy to accept.
  2.  Another thing that irritates me is that he’s almost always right.  I’m often quite naive and tend to go headlong into things and generously offer my time and effort to people and causes. He’s pretty good at reading situations and people and will sometimes warn me ahead about how things are going to turn out. Nine times out of ten,  José’s predictions are right.
  3. He’s messier than I am. We’re both pretty messy, especially about our study tables and reading area. Too much stuff and not sorted out too. I guess I’ve always hoped that I’d have someone to clean up for me. No such luck!
  4. He calls me out on bull****. This kind of goes hand in hand with #2.  Now it’s not always a comfortable feeling to have someone telling you that you’re hiding behind excuses. So let me put it down in the ‘things that irritate me’ list, as much as I appreciate it.
  5. He doesn’t like surprises. If you’re a Leo, you’ll know that surprises, gift-giving and receiving are things we love. José does try to surprise me, but for him the best part of romance is in the everyday gestures of love and caring and in buying me things that I need. He puts a lot of effort into planning our vacations too.

The best part of living together for this long is that we’ve learned to accept each other’s craziness. I’m certain José’s list will be double the length of mine, but who cares, he’s stuck with me!

#FridayReflections

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away. Sanch of Living My Imperfect Life and Everyday Gyaan give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up between Friday and Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

Feel free to add our Friday Reflections badge to your post or sidebar! Follow us on Twitter @FridayReflect and join our Facebook Group. Share your post on social media with the hashtag #FridayReflections.

Everyday Gyaan

 

Prompts for this week:

  1. Write about something you always think ‘what if…’ about
  2. Valentine’s Day – yay or nay?
  3. 5 things that irritate you about your partner
  4. “Do one thing every day that scares you” – Eleanor Roosevelt. Use this quote in your post or as an inspiration for one.
  5. Picture Prompt (credit: http://everydaygyaan.com)

Our featured writer last week was Mithila for her favourite writing book. You can be our featured writer too. All you need to do is write on one of the prompts and link up below. Remember to read other posts and share the love. Don’t forget to come back on Monday and vote for your favorite post!


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2017 Is Already Different #FridayReflections

2017 Is Already Different #FridayReflections

One of our #FridayReflections prompt this week asks me to share three things that I plan to do differently in 2017. It seems to me that 2017 is already different, mainly because of one specific  change I’ve made. While declaring that my word of the year is ‘happy’, I quietly promised myself that this would be the year of ‘no guilt’, and 6 days later, I’m happy to report that it’s started to work. I know I have many days ahead, but I can sense the big difference this is making. (No guilt about posting this late, for example!)

3 Things I Plan To Do Differently in 2017

  1. Plan my days better – and here’s where I’ve started to see the use and the wisdom of a bullet journal.  Yes my bullet journal, albeit a crude and self-made one, is working for me. The best part of this is the ease with which I can carry jobs forward. Once again, reduced guilt.
  2. Do my Morning Pages within the day even if it is not necessarily in the morning. When I don’t do a day, I’m not going to allow guilt to stop me from restarting.
  3. Go for a walk as many times a week as I can. The difference this year is that I’m not going to focus on weight loss, but on getting healthy.

What are you doing differently in 2017?

#FridayReflections

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away. Sanch of Living My Imperfect Life and Everyday Gyaan give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up between Friday and Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

Feel free to add our Friday Reflections badge to your post or sidebar! Follow us on Twitter @FridayReflect and join our Facebook Group. Share your post on social media with the hashtag #FridayReflections.

Everyday Gyaan

Our featured writer this week was Mithila for her take on saying goodbye to 2016. You can be our featured writer too. All you need to do is write on one of the prompts and link up below. Remember to read other posts and share the love. Don’t forget to come back on Monday and vote for your favourite post!

Prompts for this week:

1. Favourite book of all time
2. The driving force of your life
3. Three things I’d do differently this year
4. “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” – Rumi. Use this quote within your post or as an inspiration for one
5. Picture Prompt (credit: http://everydaygyaan.com)

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