Ebony and ivory live together in perfect harmony
Side by side on my piano keyboard
Oh Lord, why don’t we?
The Paul McCartney song plays endlessly in my head as I read reports of the henious crime in Charleston. A crime that is in all probability a racial one. People take various sides in discussions about this. I’m proud of my blogger friends who wrote strong posts against racism.
(I urge you to read Sharon Greenthal’s post ‘What can one white woman do to change the world?’)
Then a few days later, happy news also out of the US. The Supreme Court rules that same-sex marriage is a right nationwide. Colourful display pictures spread on Facebook to celebrate pride. And then I see questions and judgements flying around. “Does your rainbow DP mean you support gays?” “Obama is leading the US into sin.”
I share a picture from another blogger friend that very effectively says that Jesus never condemned gays (or anyone else). But I see one of her connections reacting to this with: ‘Perhaps Jesus didn’t say it, but His Father did!’ (What??)
I’m happy to read and share a note from the Jesuit priest, Fr Martin James:
The Catholic church must do a much better job of teaching what the Catechism says: that we should treat our LGBT brothers and sisters with “respect, sensitivity and compassion.” But God wants more. God wants us to love. And not a twisted, crabbed, narrow tolerance, which often comes in the guise of condemnations, instructions and admonitions that try to masquerade as love, but actual love.
Love means: getting to know LGBT men and women, spending time with them, listening to them, being challenged by them, hoping the best for them, and wanting them to be a part of your lives, every bit as much as straight friends are part of your lives.
Love first. Everything else later. In fact, everything else is meaningless without love.
Somewhere down the line, we’ve forgotten that religion was created to take us closer to God. A God who is all about connecting. A God who created us all equal.
“Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of perspective, meaning and purpose to our lives.”
― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
What will it take for us to remember that we are all connected? Nothing else makes sense!
Today I’m linking into Write or Die Wednesdays hosted by Mia of The Chronicles of Chaos and Vashelle of Shelly’s Cabaret a bi-monthly creative writing prompt.
Lent – a season where it’s common practice for Catholics to ask each other ‘What are you giving up for Lent?’ Okay. So I’m half-serious. But that’s the kind of idea of we had of Lent growing up. A time of ‘giving up’.
While I understand the value of fasting and moderation, I’ve never fully agreed with the need to ‘give up something’ for Lent.
A few years back, the Catholic Church in India suggested that rather than abstaining from meat and fasting, people should abstain from other things. For example, abstain from watching television and instead spend more time with family.
Pope Francis, who is already a kind of hero for me, by his outspokeness and ability to talk hard and bring up issues within the Church, has very strong views on what Lent should really be. In his Lenten message to the Church he urges that instead of abstaining from food or drink, we should fast from indifference.
He says: “Indifference to our neighbor and to God also represents a real temptation for us Christians. Each year during Lent we need to hear once more the voice of the prophets who cry out and trouble our conscience.”
Describing what he calls the ‘globalization of indifference’ he writes, “whenever our interior life becomes caught up in its own interests and concerns, there is no longer room for others, no place for the poor. God’s voice is no longer heard, the quiet joy of his love is no longer felt, and the desire to do good fades.” He continues that, “We end up being incapable of feeling compassion at the outcry of the poor, weeping for other people’s pain, and feeling a need to help them, as though all this were someone else’s responsibility and not our own.”
A very strong message and one that can apply all year around and to every one of us.
Inspirational Quotes During Lent
“As Lent is the time for greater love, listen to Jesus’ thirst…’Repent and believe’ Jesus tells us. What are we to repent? Our indifference, our hardness of heart. What are we to believe? Jesus thirsts even now, in your heart and in the poor – He knows your weakness. He wants only your love, wants only the chance to love you.”
– Blessed Teresa of Calcutta
“The proof of love is in the works. Where love exists, it works great things. But when it ceases to act, it ceases to exist.”
– Pope St. Gregory the Great
“Everything in life has its own time. There is time to celebrate and there is time to mourn. This is the time for reflection and transformation. Let us look within and change into what we ought to be.”
– Aaron Saul
During these 40 days, let me put away all my pride. Let me change my heart and give up all that is not good within me. Let me love God with all that I am and all that I have.”
– Genesis Grain
“Remember that lent and ash Wednesday is not just about putting away the bad things. It is about creating good things and helping the poor and the needy, being kind to people and much more.”
– Jacob Winters
“It is not just about giving up our favorite food but its about going further and giving up things like hatred and unforgiveness. You need to clean your heart and prepare yourself for purity.”
– Amanda Jobs
“The Lord measures out perfection neither by the multitude nor the magnitude of our deeds, but by the manner in which we perform them.”
– St. John of the Cross
“We all suffer for each other, and gain by each other’s suffering; for man never stands alone here, though he will stand alone hereafter; but here is he is a social being, and goes forward to his long home as one of a large company.”
– Cardinal John Henry Newman
More Lenten Quotes from Pope Francis
“Lent comes providentially to reawaken us, to shake us from our lethargy.”
“Fasting makes sense if it really chips away at our security and, as a consequence, benefits someone else, if it helps us cultivate the style of the good Samaritan, who bent down to his brother in need and took care of him.”
“Each of us has a vision of good and of evil. We have to encourage people to move towards what they think is good… Everyone has his own idea of good and evil and must choose to follow the good and fight evil as he conceives them. That would be enough to make the world a better place.”
“A little bit of mercy makes the world less cold and more just.”
“Wretched are those who are vindictive and spiteful.”
“We must always walk in the presence of the Lord, in the light of the Lord, always trying to live in an irreprehensible way.”
“We all have the duty to do good.”
Do you believe in Lent? What practices do you follow? Does your religion talk of the value of fasting? What do you think about fasting from indifference?
Share your views. I’d love to hear them.
PS: Do read this post from Robyn of Essence of Family – Changing Your Life’s Focus: 40 Day Lenten Challenge
You’re Going to Be Okay: Encouraging Truth Your Heart Needs to Hear, Especially on the Hard Days
Published February 4th 2014 by Fleming H. Revell Company
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With her trademark positive encouragement and probing questions for self-reflection, Holley encourages women to spend less of their lives regretting and more of their lives truly living. She shows them how to guard their hearts against despair and look to the future with confidence, remembering that they are part of a greater plan and “nothing “can stop God’s purposes for them.
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THE SECRET TO LIVING WELL
A little over a year ago, my grandpa had a ninetieth birthday party. I had the privilege of being there and serving punch. That put me in a position to do a lot of listening. Over fifty people packed into his house, and each one came with a story.
“I was in your grandpa’s Sunday school class forty years ago.”
“I used to shop in your grandpa’s bookstore, and he always encouraged me.”
“I’m in the Gideons with your grandpa. We’ve been friends for decades!”
“I go to your grandpa’s church, and he hugs me every Sunday.”
“I’m your grandpa’s neighbor, and he makes me laugh whenever I see him.”
On and on the stories went of how my grandpa has spent his life loving well, in little and big ways. I nodded my head in agreement because I’ve experienced the same. For over fifteen years now, my grandpa has taken me out on breakfast dates to ask me how I’m doing and encourage me in my faith.
My grandpa never went to Hollywood. He’s not a CEO of a big corporation or a high-position politician. He’s a regular guy in a small town who simply says yes when God asks to use him.
It turns out that doing so is not only a blessing to those around him; it’s also probably one of the reasons he’s lived so long.
Research has shown that those who have strong relationships and serve others tend to live healthier, more joyful lives.
When we go through stress, it’s easy to hunker down and withdraw from others. I certainly tend to respond that way. If I’m having a hard day, I’m more likely to sit on the corner of the couch with some chocolate for a private pity party than to reach out to those around me. I’m slowly learning that choice isn’t beneficial.
We are made to connect with others.
Daniel Goleman, author of Social Intelligence, says, “Our brain has been preset for kindness.”[i] He goes on to share that we are always impacted by those around us. Through brain “loops” we catch each other’s moods like colds. Watch two friends having an intimate conversation. Their body language almost always synchronizes without them even realizing it. What this ultimately means is that when we bring joy to others, it comes back to us in both spiritual and physical ways.
When we’re stressed, we need to shift our internal state, and serving others can be one of the most effective ways to do so.
Ironically, when we need it most is often when we’re likely to do this least. That can be due to lower energy (and sometimes what we really do need is simply rest). But I think it can also be because of a lie that we believe: “I have to have it all together before I can help someone else.”
Have you ever felt this way? I have. But it’s simply not true. Throughout Scripture God uses messy, broken people right in the middle of their greatest challenges. We don’t need to have it all together. Wherever we are today, we can serve in some way. Even if it’s just offering a smile to the nurse in our hospital room. Or making our toddler giggle when we’re almost at the end of our patience. Or listening to a friend at church on Sunday morning when we’d really like to get home to our house and the couch instead.
What I’ve seen through my grandpa’s life is that true service isn’t about grand gestures; it’s about a series of small choices.
Most of them unseen. Many we won’t know the impact of this side of heaven. All of which add up to a lifetime of resilience and loving well.
Jairam Mohan is somebody who pores over excel spreadsheets and power-point presentations in his day job, but believes his true calling is in boring people to death, hence, he updates his blog Mahabore’s Mumblings quite frequently.
Between his wife and him, they nurture their 2 yr old daughter and the blog with snippets from their experiences with mythology, parenting and occasionally also dabble with some fiction.
SPIRITUALITY AND RELIGION
While it is reasonably well known that I regularly write about the great Indian epics and mythological tales, one standard assumption that most of my readers might have made about me would have been that I am a deeply religious sort of person. After all, someone who is not very religious will probably not read and write so much about the wonderful old mythological tales from the Ramayana and the Mahabharata, will he.
And so when Corinne asked me to write a guest post for her blog, I immediately thought that this would be a good opportunity for me to put up something about my personal opinion about religion and spirituality in general.
Coming from a fairly conservative South Indian Tamil Brahmin family it was inevitable that I was introduced to religion at a very young age. Starting from the fact that I was taught some Sanskrit shlokas at a very young age and my upanayanam ceremony (a Brahmin initiation ritual which symbolizes the transference of spiritual knowledge to the seeker) was done when I was 11 yrs old, most of my childhood was filled with good-hearted and well-intentioned attempts by my parents to make me a moderately religious spiritual child. However, the fact that I was growing up in a changing India and a cosmopolitan Bangalore meant that I hung out with quite a diverse set of friends ranging from North Indians, Indian Diaspora returned from Kuwait due to the Gulf War, Anglo Indians and the like, and this meant that I somehow never could quite latch on to the idea of organized religion as a concept.
Although I did not rebel against religion and religious practices and become an atheist or anything like that, it was just that I did it just to keep my parents happy and didn’t quite pick it up the way my peer Tam Brahms did in smaller cities like Palakkad, Madras, etc. This meant that although I was part of the larger Tam Brahm community by virtue of my birth, upbringing, etc, I didn’t quite fit in with them as comfortably as I fit in within the cosmopolitan melee of Bangalore.
That being said, the same cosmopolitan melee ensured that I developed a fair appreciation of other religions, other cultures, and ended up going to churches, mosques, gurudwaras, functions from all other faiths to which my friends belonged to and developed a decent understanding of the fact that God, as a concept advocated pretty much the same thing, albeit from different pulpits, altars, temples or mosques. And that, in my opinion has held me in good stead over the years.
In recent times though, as life and its experiences have weathered my sensibilities, I now realize that ‘spirituality’ as a word encompasses so much more than just religion and religious practices. In fact, the same religious practices which I shunned and ignored when I was younger, I now realize are an easier way to become more spiritual. After all, it is next to impossible for all of us to develop the high levels of concentration and motivation required to focus, concentrate and meditate and bring our minds to a state of equanimity, where we treat everybody and everybody as equal in the eyes of the Creator.
And this is precisely where some of our religious practices help us. By virtue of their inflexibility and rigidity, they enable us to become more disciplined with our habits, our thoughts, and coupled with the cosmopolitan world view that I grew up with, these practices help me maintain my sense of spirituality.
When I read the great epics like the Ramayana and the Mahabharata, I don’t necessarily see Hindu Gods like Rama, Hanuman and Krishna in them, I see normal human beings being put in unusual situations and learn from how they react to them. Each one of these epics and the thousands of smaller stories within them are all lessons from which all of us can learn from. The insights that these characters and situations give into the human psyche are amazing and it is visible from the quality of comments that some of these posts receive on my blog. And that to me is spiritual lessons being put into practice.
To conclude, am I religious, not really, but am I spiritual, to some extent, but I personally believe I have a long way to go and have only recently started taking the right steps in that direction.
Post Script from Corinne: The theme for the December NaBloPoMo is More/Less and that’s what I’m exploring through December 2013. I will be writing on the subject of my own spiritual journey soon.
I’ve lived my entire life without goals. And for most of it, I felt slightly guilty about having no goals. Whenever I read or heard of people working hard and in a focused manner towards their goals, I wanted to imitate them. I made a Mission Statement – but it had no focus about what I wanted to achieve or ‘do’. Instead, I found myself focusing on what I wanted to ‘be’.
In recent years, I’ve learned to accept my lack of goals and not feel guilty about them. So when I read these lines from Louise Hay, I’m thrilled:
No. I don’t have goals. I never have had goals. For me, that is not what works. I just go along with life, knowing my life is wonderful and only good lies before me. So, what difference do goals make? – Louise Hay
I go ‘yes’! While there were years that I didn’t quite realize that my life was wonderful or believe that only good lay before me, I found it so hard to plan my future. Now I’ve started to truly believe that only good is in store for me. Yes, even on the days that good comes masquerading as discomfort, pain or hurt, I believe that everything works for the best.
All I have to do is focus on the moment and enjoy what I am doing in it.
I have seen people who have goals about their education, their career, the exact amount of money they want to have when they retire, etc. If that’s what works for them, then good luck to them. But when people attempt to apply goals to other areas of their lives – their relationships, their children’s future, their spirituality – I start to get uncomfortable.
I recall reading this story a while back:
A woman told Zen Master Suzuki Roshi she found it difficult to mix Zen practice with the demands of being a householder, “I feel I am trying to climb a ladder, but for every step upward I slip backward two steps.”
“Forget the ladder,” the Roshi told her, “when you awaken everything is right here on the ground.”
To me, goals are like ladders which I find hard to climb. So I stay on the ground, enjoying it, because everything is right here in this moment.
Are you a goal-setting type of person? Or does a life without goals appeal to you too?
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Introduced recently – an invitation, a prompt, a linky. Write exactly a 100 words on the prompt and publish it on your blog – a story, a poem, a mini-essay. The linky will be open right up to next Friday, after which I will have a new prompt and a fresh linky.
100 Words On Saturday 3 Prompt : SACRED SPACE/S
What constitutes a sacred space? A building like a temple, a church, a mosque, or a place of pilgrimage like the Holy Land, the holy city of Mecca, the holy city of Varanasi. It could also be a landscape, the sheer natural beauty of which makes us consider it sacred. A sacred space can also be a particular place in your home. Wherever it might be, we must create a sanctuary which we can retreat to when we are stressed or in need of renewal. Personally, I believe we need to retreat into our sacred space everyday to find ourselves.
“I have written an article, to be sent to the Mandir for their annual magazine. Read it.” said Dad.
“Okay”, said I.
He reminded me twice again in the next 20 minutes.
“Haan Papa, let me first finish making my calls.”
Somehow talking to my cousins and relatives and sharing our common grief seemed my priority. I wanted to “talk out” my grief.
Last November, I lost my cousin in a road accident. He was 32 years old. He left behind a young wife, a daughter – 3 years old, 3 sisters of whom one is unmarried. He was born in Kolkata and named Ramakrishna, after the great scholar, saint and philosopher Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa. My cousin was a gem of a person – a devoted son, a doting husband, father and brother.
This January 19th, I lost one of my aunts to cancer. Her beauty always awed me. It was her inner beauty, which reflected on her face and personality.
On January 25th, my maternal uncle too succumbed to cancer. I rushed to my hometown Bangalore to pay my last respects. What he was to me is difficult to describe in words.
All these people had beautiful hearts and wonderful souls. It was impossible for a person who came into contact with them, not to like them. So, why were they taken away when the world needs people like them? I was bereaved, still am…and was searching for the answer on that night.
I sat down to read the article only after I had dinner. I was mesmerized from the first word itself.
Dad’s article started with a prayer –
“Lead, kindly Light, amid the encircling gloom,
Lead Thou me on;
The night is dark, and I am far from home;
Lead Thou me on:
Keep Thou my feet; I do not ask to see
The distant scene, – one step enough for me.” …
(The first part of the hymn written by Cardinal Newman.)
In the article, Dad had written how this prayer was transformed into reality, when he actually was led by a light when he was in a difficult situation.
Many a time, when in grief or when we are sad, we are so preoccupied with our thoughts that we do not seem to notice the Universe sending us messages. We are searching for answers and may fail to see them right in front of us.
I read this prayer over and over. Every time I read it, I was filled with peace. I could understand and grasp the meaning. If not an answer, I had found solace in this prayer.
Janaki Nagaraj is a homemaker by choice and a blogger by passion. Here’s what she has to say about herself: I’m a fun loving person who stopped growing at adolescence! 😉 My kids are my vitamin D, my friends are my strength and inspiration, my husband is my support.
Janaki writes at http://www.janakinagaraj.com and shares her love for photography at https://janakinagaraj.wordpress.com/
Of late, I find myself beginning to understand people better. I am able to see motivations and impulses and understand them. There was a time when I took everything at face value. Then I moved towards being judgmental. Now, I am working on moving towards compassion. I have miles to go before I learn not to judge. But I think I’ve made a start.
A rabbi asked his students this question: “How can we determine the hour of dawn, when the night ends and the day begins?”
One student answered, “When from a distance you can distinguish between a dog and a sheep.”
The rabbi said, “No, that is not the answer.”
Another student said, “Is it when one can distinguish between a fig tree and a grapevine?”
The rabbi once again answered, “No.”
After many students attempted to answer the question without success, the students begged the rabbi to tell them the answer. The wise rabbi said, “You can tell when the night ends and the day begins when you can look into the eyes of human beings and you have enough light inside of you to recognize them as your brothers or sisters. Until you can do that, it is night, and darkness is still with you.”
~ Hasidic story
For me, the day is beginning….What’s it like for you?
- What’s better: Self-esteem or self-compassion? (theglobeandmail.com)
- Is Jesus Passing By? (train4life.typepad.com)
- Hurricane Sandy: How To Show Compassion To Those Affected (huffingtonpost.com)
- a prayer for today (sacredlymundane.com)