Comparison: The Thief of Joy

Welcome to the Blog Hop Comparison: Thief of Joy? where bloggers from all over the world are invited to share their ideas about Theodore Roosvelt’s quote: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Do you agree of disagree with Teddy’s POV? Please share your unique perspective.

There are 3 easy steps to join the Blog Hop:

1. Follow the instructions for submitting your entry using the Linky provided below – remember to copy and paste the link to your specific ‘comparison’ post, not just your blog, into the Linky.

2. Copy and paste the following announcement (with links) into the intro to your blog post:
Linking in to the Comparison Blog Hop on Dangerous Linda and Everyday Gyaan.

3. Be sure to read and comment on other bloggers’ posts in the hop. It’s a great way to get to know each other and expand our cyber-community of awesome writers and thinkers.


the punk & the conehead

If you’re unlucky, it starts even before you’re born. “My last pregnancy was so much easier”, mourns the mother. Or if you’re her first child, “But my sister didn’t get this sick. This baby is giving me a hard time.”

Then you are born. And they come in droves to see you. “Oh my doesn’t she look just like Cousin Anabelle.”  “No, no can’t you see her nose is just like Grandma Nancy’s!”  “Fourteen hours of labor? You didn’t have to wait so long with Terry, did you?” “He keeps you up all night? My baby sleeps like an angel at night.”  If there are no siblings or cousins to compare you with there’s always Dr Spock‘s babies who can be used as a yardstick for your growth or lack of it.

You start to grow. “Lola stop fidgeting. Can’t you see how quietly your brother is sitting?”  “Anirudh, you really should stop drinking milk from a bottle. Look at your cousin Satish. He’s only three and he drinks  from a cup.”

Now comes school and with it a whole new set of children to compare you with. “You got 73/100 for your test? Shame on you – see how well Mrs Choudhary’s daughter does.”  “Why do I keep getting complaints about you from the teacher? Mala’s teachers always praise her.” Even the teachers get into the act. “You’re Nalini’s cousin? She was an angel, you’re a devil!”

After a while you learn to start doing it to yourself. You are constantly measuring your height against your sister’s. You improve your grades in school, but you’re not happy because you wish you had the same grades as your friend, Sharon. You gradually start skipping meals because you want to lose weight so you can look like Andrea. You start to work out at the gym, pushing yourself to exhaustion, because you want to develop muscles to look just like Salman Khan!

You stop feeling good about the way you look, because you wish you looked like a movie star. You stop trying to work on your talents, because you’ll never be as good as…..You stop enjoying achievements because you’re always wishing you had done better than your friend. You want to be better dressed than……. You want to be richer than……. You want to travel more than………. You want to sing just like……. You forget that all you have to be the best YOU.  It goes on and on. The cycle of comparison….

Is comparison the thief of joy? Need I say more?

Now I’m off to see Dangerous Linda’s post on the subject, so I can compare 😉 (I’m also linking in to Blogelina today.)

May you be inspired – every day!




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  2. I agree with that statement! When you compare with others, you lose the treasure and blessing that you have right in front of you! a 73/100!? Congrats, as long as they did their best, that could be a huge improvement from their previous efforts!  Besides if your child hears you comparing them, it breaks down their self confidence and then they put less effort into everything they do. It steals joy they may have had in themselves. 

  3. Wow, your post really got me thinking about this.  I am guilty of saying many of these things to my son on a regular basis.  At the time it seems like an easy way to help him understand what I mean.  However, I will have to re-think this.

  4. I’m so guilty of comparing myself to others.  🙁  However, I don’t really compare my kids or anything like that…they are totally different and love them just the way the are.  🙂


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  5. I think it is.  I think that we spend so much time trying to keep up with the Jones’ that we forget about how to be happy within our own lives.  Brenda and I have devoted our blog to families.  We share family-friendly tips, recipes, craft projects and activities as an attempt to bring the bond of family closer for everyone. 

    1. @twitter-407448740:disqus  I agree we sometimes spend too much time on negatively comparing ourselves that we forget to be grateful for all we have.

  6. Very true! It’s hard to not compare, but I try very hard not to. Sometimes you don’t even realize what you are doing. Thanks for this post, gives me a lot to think about!

  7. I recently read an article about blogging and not comparing your own successes to others. It was a great post that can be applied to life. Thanks for sharing this quote with us. I agree with it for sure.

  8. Thanks @49221cfe0abd0e4c7359348cd721ae47:disqus . As many of the other bloggers on the hop have pointed out, comparison has it’s good points too. But when we direct in a negative way it becomes a thief of joy.

  9. @746661f620c9abc7976dfd206fc3ffbd:disqus I’m sure it’s real tough for mothers not to compare. But do they have to let their kids know about it, is the question. 🙂

  10. @593cf65e2ad20909aa0520d9cda54914:disqus  – as you said learning to be grateful and content with who we are and what we have is key to being joyful.

  11. Hi Corinne, I am composing a post with ‘gyaan’ from all the contributors collated and presented for a treasure trove of inspiration. I will submit that after the blog hop ends. 🙂 Would you include it here? 🙂

  12. I struggle with the comparison issue – I might be perfectly happy with something I’ve done, but then I see something someone else has done and suddenly my effort is horrible! Definitely the thief of joy.

  13. I am a firm believer that everyone has a gift.  And that all gifts are equal.  I never compare people because of this. 

    Now I am more than willing to compare ice cream… hee hee.


  14. excellent delivery… something about seeing words in black and white! I will be paying closer attention with my kids. I’d like to say that I don’t say those things to them, but now I’m not so certain. Just recently my oldest daughter during art time or after an activity which I liked better her’s or her sisters.  I’ve been wondering what has prompted her to start doing that… hmm. will pay close attention. Thank you for this… wonderful job! 

    1. Thanks, Amy. I don’t know where kids pick this up from sometimes, no matter how careful we are. I loved your post on this subject so authentic and meaningful. 

  15. Comparisons can be both good and bad.  Once we had twins, I learned not to compare.  Our twins are so incredibly different, and it sure would be unfair to compare them to each other.  Thanks for such a thought-provoking post!

    1. Ah then I wasn’t too wrong with my choice of an image was I, @openid-130497:disqus ? I can see how it would be so easy to compare twins but yet each of them are so unique.

  16. Yes  it does rob your joy. I know I looked at other and thought that they were cool/good looking/better but never wanted to be them. They have problems in their lives too. They may be rich but they also could be lonely. They maybe pretty but could be abused. They could be smart but be homeless. You are where you are for a reason and there is no need to compare.

  17. So true! I remember hearing  a frugal mom say that you are never tired of your wordrobe until you’re at the mall!!

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  19. So very true!    I am often comparing myself to others and feeling yuck.  But you know what?  It depends on the spirit of the comparison.  I come at it from a self hatred point of view (I am working on this) and think I’m not as thin as or as pretty as or as smart as or….you get the picture.  I have been in a few circles in my life and it was often helpful to feel normalized.  I am a counselor and sometimes my work is hard for various reasons and it helps to talk to other counselors who are struggling with similar issues, because when I compare to them, I feel like I’m ok….I’m normal.  Perhaps it needs to come with a balance.  Finding camaraderie with others who share things you have in common but always balanced with a healthy sense of self and “I’m good enough.”  Thought provoking post….thanks!

  20. Teddy was right, it is the thief of joy!  Couldn’t have put it better!  We totally hate being compared but we do it all the time in all aspects of our lives.  I look at someone’s blog and like their design, layout, writing style, content, pictures, and giveaways more.  I get jealous of SAHM and WAHMs because I am a WOHM.  I compare myself to other married women and all their travels, material things, etc and it steals away from me living MY life to the fullest!  I am learning daily to try to be content with what I have and not look with greedy eyes at the lives of others and to not let life slip by me while I keep thinking about how my life isn’t as “good as others.”  Thank you for sharing this!  

  21. Having 4 kids and try not to compare child #1 to #2 or #4 to #1 is hard.  But like you said everyone is special in their own way.

  22. Wise words. I hadn’t even thought of how it starts before we’re even born but you’re right. Will try to compare less and enjoy more!

  23. Needed this today! As I work on more patience with my middle child, I need to stop comparing her to her completely different (not better) brother. Though I do not say it out loud, I think it often. Thanks for reminding me not to give my joy away by comparing. 

    1. @8225b0d3ff3cd33147e3dd37f020eb10:disqus  – I’m glad this was timely for you. I think when we compare negatively we forget to value a person’s uniqueness. 

  24. The statement can definitely be true! But if we look at comparison through a different light, and try to become better people it can be good. I think it’s just a matter of attitude on how we take those comparisons. I see someone I want to be like, and instead of dwelling on how I can never be like them, I strive to do what I can to make myself a better person, and then be happy with the results!

    1. I absolutely agree with you@homemaidsimple:disqus . I chose to take one side of it for the purpose of argument on the blog hop. Thanks for your comments. 

  25. Comparision is a bad habit that I catch myself falling into too often.  It only leads me to a deeper funk than when I started.

  26. I’ve a split mind on comparison. On one level, I want to know where my work fits in a context. On another, I don’t want to look only at how my work measures up against others’. 

  27. Yes, I’ll agree it can be the thief of joy.  Unless of course you come out on top.  

    Thanks so much for sharing!


  28. Comparison is such a hard thing, not just when comparing kids, but when we compare our lives to others.

    1. Yes @google-5d9433ed028c40f1060a107a95b448c0:disqus  it can hurt us bad. But like other ‘hoppers’ have pointed out, it has it’s place too. 

  29. LOL we women are so hard to get along with.  I have a twin sister and this comparison drove her out of state to college.  Thankfully we are pretty much over it.  I think!

  30. I spent the first 12 years of my life being called by my sisters name.  even by teachers.  I so understand.

  31. Comparison certainly can rob us of joy. It’s rather similar to how our envy can lead to discontentment…

  32. Corinne, you have aptly described how most women come to think of themselves as time wears on. I read  your post and thought, except for the names, Corinne could very well be writing about me! I had a wonderful childhood. I can even say I loved high school, but there was one aspect that seemed to sour things for me: comparison. It robbed the joy of every activity, all the way from cheerleading to dances. I can’t remember one time when my friends and I weren’t sizing each other up to see who looked better, thinner, was more popular, had the most boyfriends. If I could turn back time, I’d refuse to engage in such a shallow and ridiculous pursuit. Instead, I would invest more in me, fortifying my spirit and developing my creativity. That’s what I’d do! Thank you for hosting this blog hop and for allowing me to be a part of it! I loved participating! 🙂

    1.  I know I had already commented but I had a little more to say and after the event, I wanted so much to express how much I enjoyed participating! 🙂

    2. So true, @b5cdf907b62a9caa484ca317cc739b3b:disqus …I think I wasted too much time on comparisons too and didn’t take enough of changes and try out more things. Thanks for sharing.

  33. I think comparison is inevitable.  It has its places, but yes, it can steal joy!

  34. Sometimes it’s hard to love yourself when you always compare yourself to others.

  35. I agree with you. And sad to say I’m always comparing myself to others making me feel disappointed.

  36. I definitely agree! Think I will be a bit more mindful of this habit now………I want to live in JOY!

  37. I guess I am lucky I am an only child and had no sibling to be compared to. Although I think I would of rather had a sibling. I always wanted one! I do often compare myself to other people a lot and have a need to be accepted but some of it stems from having an alcoholic mother. Anywho. Makes you think!

    1. I’d take comparisons over not having siblings any day @HomeJobsbyMOM:disqus . I think being part of a dysfunctional unit makes it easy for us to have low self-esteem which causes us to negatively compare ourselves. 

  38. How true! I was lucky that way, was never compared with my brother who is just a year younger to me but I know of so many who are still scarred by all the comparisons their parents made with thier siblings or friends.

    1. @7c04a3c7aa85123a82fb23d2b69990bf:disqus – it’s very rare for Indian parents not to compare their kids to each other and worse still with their friends’ children! 

  39. I have really been trying to realize that comparing even my last job to my current job will steal my joy. Thanks for the reminder!

  40. You are so right!  I am still in the process of trying to stop comparing myself to others and to by content with what I am/what I have.

  41. As a mother I’ve had to remind myself not to fall into this trap. Yes, our daughter isn’t the best sleeper. But she is a fabulous eater. She may be a little (a lot!) hyper but she is very smart. If I focused on where she fell short of her peers I’d never see how special she really is 🙂

    1. That’s great @ab223657000671a55f8dcf97389b8ae3:disqus . When we highlight the positives and coach the kids of out the negative behavior we get better results.

  42. I am so guilty of this both for comparing myself and my children. Thank you for drawing awareness to this I need to make conscious effort to improve it.

  43. I agree that comparisons can be damaging to self-esteem.  I’ll have to keep this in mind as I parent my daughter.
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  44. We have struggled with this in our family– because of my mother in law.  She compares our children to her other grandchildren with ours never meet her expectations or are as good as her others.  So we have distanced ourselves from them- and my poor hubby has to deal with her complaining that we don’t like her. 
    I love my children for who they are– not who I would like them to be!

    1. @openid-130134:disqus thanks for sharing. I’m sorry you have to deal with this. Some people have just the knack of making themselves unhappy – she’s the loser here.

  45. I hate to compare with anyone. But it does happen and it just makes me unhappy. So I try not to compare with others as it is better for everyone.  I just try to be happy with what I have and not worry about others.

  46. I was the oldest so my younger siblings were compared to me.  I never realized this until they told me when we were adults about how the teachers would always expect so much out of them because I’d been in the class ahead of them.  They said it was quite a lot to live up to my reputation. I had no idea. 

  47.  Oh my, how true!  I try really hard not to compare my children, but it can be hard.  I need to be careful.

  48. Yes, I agree.  Comparison is the thief of joy.  My goal is to be the best I can be.  And that isn’t superwoman. 

  49. I’ve never heard this quote before, but it is a great one! I try to remember to be the best ME I can be – no one can beat me at that.

  50. You can’t go around comparing yourself to others.  that’s just another problem brewing. Great post and I love the insight you have.

  51. Pretty interesting subject for a blog hop — you must have had some good reads.

    What about comparison leading people not to feel inferior, but superior? This is self-conceit, and as much a thief of joy as the feeling of inferiority.

    I think comparison might be a good thing, if one is to perceive the distance that separates him from his ideal as a motive for further improvement — without any feeling of failure. It’s not easy – but it can be done. 

    1. Comparison making one feel superior? Interesting @3c61b5a92ad72c9e8bd94c1604ad4135:disqus …Yes, comparison can be a good thing too, if used wisely.

  52. In the way that you describe comparison, I couldnt agree with you more.  This post was also an excellent reminder to caretakers of lil souls that we need to be mindful of the words we choose and super careful to not make comparisons. 
    As comarison as a whole, I respectfully disagree in that I think there are some ways comparison is a useful tool (which I stated in my post) for encouraging successful, positive behavior. 

    Thank you for the opportunity to blog hop here today! 

    Be blessed wildly, 

    1. Thanks so much @google-eefb5f282648d0f138a3c891cb51d989:disqus . I loved your post and agree with you that comparison can be very useful too. I was just taking one side of the argument. Thanks for participating and adding so much to this hop.

  53. I can definitely understand your point, Corinne. Comparison can definitely prevent us from seeing the beauty of uniqueness in others and ourselves. Thanks for helping to foster this discussion.

  54. i think everything in moderation- constant comparison is not a good thing.  but in moderation?  yes.  it gives us things to strive towards (or against)

  55. I agree that comparing yourself to others can be detrimental, but I’m not sure it’s something we can stop doing. We’re surrounded by other people, and we’re constantly comparing things to determine which is best for our life, wether it’s which book we want to read right now, or which house we want to buy.  It’s a natural (if not healthy) extension to compare people, as well. Very thought-provoking post.

    1. @twitter-334696195:disqus I appreciate your thoughts. I took one side of the argument. We can use comparison to grow and compare our own circumstances to the past too. 

  56. I’ve never thought about it, but after hearing that quote, I believe Mr. Roosevelt was right on the money. Comparing your life to others can really suck any happiness out of you.

    1. Thanks for your comment, @cedda1c1908ae48f17e118ad3c4e248e:disqus . I’m not completely sure he’s right. Read the other side of the argument on the other blogs linked in to this hop 🙂

  57. I try not to compare myself to others, but sometimes I can’t help it. She’s skinnier, he’s smarter, blah blah blah. It’s a rotten thing to do to yourself, and I’m working to put a stop to it. I am me, and I’m happy to be me!

  58. You know I never did this with my kids and no one else did it with the either but I do it with my blog all the time and it is just crazy as I want to be in the popular crowd yet I see myself standing in the backyard. I hate it. But I can not seem to stop.

    1. I think many of us bloggers are guilty of this @9a403918b2ae1ab2426c9e740cd8ca86:disqus . However, if we use comparison to improve our writing and blogging – it can be a powerful tool too. 

  59. Oh boy.. suddenly my whole life flashed by, comparisons comparisons .. how i hate them.. My mum are six sisters so there was always a comparison how their son or daughter is so good in studies .. or in painting and tons of others things ..

    The only good thing when it came to sports I bet my MUM had her moment too of comparisons with a smile For I was very good in that .. so i use to wait all year long for those 3 days of sports days..  or the interhouse  or inter public school hockey matches ..


  60. Very true, Corinne..
    I have written something similar and what else comparison brings into our lives…  

  61. We are all so unique – even in our strengths and weaknesses – that it just doesn’t make sense to compare ourselves to anyone else. Even if there is someone worthy of emulating in one way, they are still human and have plenty of negative traits themselves.

    1. It’s important to learn to enjoy being You – but the journey to it is not always easy, @0fe1efa64642b14a89ff1e9eb2bb0c13:disqus . Thanks for stopping by.

  62. Oh how I love a good quote! Yes comparison can be a thief of joy. I really try not to compare myself or my family against others but every once in awhile it happens. It’s just something that has almost been taught for us to do.

    1. I just took one side of the argument @ae082e5fe241d4a71b4e93506477af89:disqus . We can use comparison in a positive way too as many other ‘hoppers’ share. 

  63. My husband’s a big fan of Teddy Roosevelt, but I never knew that was his quote. Fun idea linking up and comparing…or not comparing. I’m going to follow on Twitter!

    1. We’re now not sure it’s his quote @2f4ba375c86193cacbba6395ab56df48:disqus  😉  Thanks for following. You’ll find some great posts on this hop. 

  64. I guess we all do it. We see that someone has an easier time than us, and feel sorry for ourselves. But you shouldn’t compare just one event, you should see the bigger picture and then often, things look very different!  

  65. I am terrible at comparing myself to others and I always have been.  I’m slowly starting to change, but I’ve been finding it difficult.  I do believe that comparison steals joy!  

    1. I think we all do this at some point in life, @aac303b040c60a9e0aa3a3dfeb245e33:disqus ….I used to, too. When I stopped comparing myself negatively, I felt much freer to be me.

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  67. Comparison is also necessary so we have something to measure ourselves against.  I remember a part of the Dalai Lama’s autobiography that really stuck with me. He wrote about growing up as the only child amongst all his adult teachers.  One time he had another child joined him for lessons for a short while and he wrote about how much he enjoyed seeing what the other child could do – and being able to have some kind of benchmark to compare himself against.Not in a bad way, or and I’m better or worse than you way – but we all like to feel part of a group and not alone.  
    Comparison is necessary but does not have to be competitive and detrimental.

    1. @6a06231f7cd6e1df564d49506f79cf63:disqus – thanks for sharing. I loved this story. And it’s a great example of ‘good’ comparison. As you will see I just took one side and @DangerousLinda:disqus the other. 

  68. I’m a twin.  I’ve always been compared to at least one person.  It’s not that people don’t appreciate each of us for who we are, but they just can’t help comparing us because we shared the womb.  I don’t think there’s a black and white answer… some people can handle comparisons and just feel they are learning about people, but for many the comparison experience is difficult and damaging.

    1. It must be harder for twins, I think, Rachel. Like most things in life there is no black and white answer. I think the intention of the comparison is what counts. 

  69. When you put it that way, I think you are right, comparison is the thief of joy.   I didn’t really compare my children to each other because my oldest had Down Syndrome, so we took it for granted that he would be unique in his own way.  It definitely allowed for us to enjoy his milestones as they took significantly longer than for our second born.  Thanks for the food for thought, Corinne.

    1. @f404935938e38d51edf6da24edf90d03:disqus  this is just one way of looking at it. And I can see why it was so hard for you to compare your children. If you look further up the comments you’ll see a mom (@befa2dfeef799a6c6ca6f97264045c68:disqus ) who had the same issues.

  70. I got your point Corinne. I was looking at your image of twins and even with that image, I could understand your point. However, we focus so much on the act of comparing that it becomes a thief of joy. I do believe it has good points. At the other side, I understand how human psyche work the way you have described it. It could exhaust one’s energy on trying to keep up or be like someone…

    Thanks for the reflections you shared here.

    1. @melissatandoc:disqus Thank you for your lovely and most unique post that you shared on this hop. Yes, comparison can be for good, if we want it to be so.

  71. It is so true isn’t it? my post is similar, although more related to money. When we compare our lives we can never be content.

  72. I have been blessed to live in 5 different countries in the last 20 years so I have compared our lives to others from around the world and well, us in the USA do not know how good we have it!

    1. Ah that’s so true, @openid-129939:disqus …I live in India and it’s not easy to take things for granted when you see poverty staring you in the face. 

  73. I’ve never compared my kids to each other – at least not out loud.  They are so very different.

  74. Your description is so true. You tell it in a funny way. I remembered every time they used to tell me i was a true copy of my grand mother, how i used too be upset and cry. Now i can see it as a compliment as she was a beautiful lady, but a child can’t really understand that!
    Parents who compare their children to others create jealousy, but it is even worst when they compare their child with what they were at the same age, because at that point, they are destroying the child’s self confidence. A child always want to please his parents, he can compete with a friend or a brother, but he can’t compete with what his father was many years ago.

    1. @5a574457eaecfb2fc0a9b161a9871273:disqus I can see why a child wouldn’t like to be compared to an adult. And oh yes, some adults love to tell tall tales of their many achievements when they were their child’s age. As you said, no one can compete with a memory 😉

  75. Corinne I feel like you’re telling about my story. I learned so much from my own personal experience. And if one day I get married and have kids, I’ll do my best not to compare them to others and allow their individual selves to blossom.

    Thank you so much for the wonderful opportunity to share my own views on this subject matter. And thank you for your kind words on my post. 🙂

    1. @c287b3672674d28d3a5b4cd2c6cd270c:disqus  – thank you for your most authentic sharing in your post on the hop. I can see how negative comparison cost you a lot. We must allow everyone to be themselves, mustn’t we? 🙂

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  77. It can go either way, I think, considering the personalities involved. I think it’s inspiring, while someone else may be envious. 

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  79. Hello.
    I haven’t got a post for the blog hop. I’m taking a breather from doing staff appraisals to add my two cents.

    We are all imperfect humans and as much as we might try to deny it, we all do comparisons of some sort. Comparison is & can be the thief of joy only if we let it. We were all created equal, but individual. Just think of how boring life would be if we were all the same. We should embrace our uniqueness for being different. I am happy & comfortable being me…the incomparable…the original & handsome poet. LOL! Enjoyed your post. Back to work for me. 🙁
    Thanks for sharing. I’ll try to read the others when I can.

    1. @5c72e9bb39037dc70461da44fd31e577:disqus I’m not even going to compare myself to you 😉  But you’re right comparison will rob us of joy if we let it. Time for us to embrace our uniqueness and revel in it. 

  80. Your right we are constantly judging ourselves by how well another ..does, looks etc..we are constantly fighting a race instead of excepting who we are,,,rather sad..i wonder how long it will take for mankind to stop running that race and just sit and be happy with themselves….As always ,…XOXOXOXO

  81. We are on the same wave length Corinne, as my conversation
    is grades too – though you cover much more ground here than I.  When will we ever realize (as a society) that each person is uniquely made? 

     I see plain and simple
    that you agree that comparison IS the thief of joy.

    1. @google-3d38cb7d9d9e35f57bf9da55324ae303:disqus  – I loved how you connected this with education and grades. That is a big issue in India. Young people actually commit suicide over poor grades and the thought of bringing disrepute to their family because of all the comparisons 🙁

  82. Corinne, I’m with you, sister. I believe comparison is detrimental to our feeling satisfied and content with what we have or how we are. When we compare ourselves to others, we’re likely to find differences that usually cause us to feel insecure and sad. I find this also leads to us feeling inadequate and incapable of measuring up to the achievements of others. It’s not to say we have to ban comparison from our lives, but surely it’s something to be avoided when it leaves us feeling  like we’re not good enough. I love the idea of a blog hop on this subject! 🙂

    1. @b5cdf907b62a9caa484ca317cc739b3b:disqus I think what is done to us, becomes something we do to ourselves as we go on in life. I guess we can call it ‘negative’ comparison and ‘positive’ comparison. I’m so happy that you took part in the blog hop, Bella. As always, you have such a wonderfully unique perspective on things. ♥

  83. Wow Corinne, you covered so much here.  It’s so true about comparisons, not only thief of joy but giver of grief.  
    I  hope to write something for the blog hop soon.  
    Hugs to you.

    1. I had to take a side on it,  @fc9207346ed3beae16947fde8b2511b3:disqus But as others have pointed out there’s a good side to comparison if we know how to use it. Loved your post – it was so unique. ♥

  84. Corinne, we really do ourselves an injustice by comparing ourselves with others. Love your thoughts on this touchy subject. I think you and Linda have chosen a wonderful topic and best of luck for the blog hop.

  85. Don’t like being compared in any shape or form. I have seen friendships and relationships being destroyed because of this. One can learn so much from our individualism

    1. I know comparisons can lead to a lot of problems in relationships @6bada2ad50e9345e54a86ccb672a7a12:disqus ….Thanks for sharing your views in your post. 

  86. I grew up being constantly compared to my older sister.  It probably wouldn’t have been bad if we had actually had more in common, but we were like day and night.  I try very hard now, having my own children, to leave the comparisons at the door ☺

    1. Ah, Mary…one of the few times I’m grateful I didn’t have a sister 😉 I had two brothers who were older, so it was not bad at all. Thanks for your fabulous post on the topic ♥

  87. All that said above is true but ‘bad’ co-exists with ‘good’ in this case. Sometimes comparison can make you do better. Its all how you take it I guess.  In the case of children though – I think it really is the thief of joy. 

    1. I agree, @fd9379004a62d00f5f54f6e68706e9d8:disqus . We were taking ‘sides’ on the issue and hence I took this side. Yes, children do find it difficult to take comparison and that’s only natura.


    too have had the experience of being compared, and somehow unconsciously I too
    compared my daughter with my son who was a down syndrome child, it was so easy
    for my daughter to do everything on time, for my son it was a challenge, as a
    mother I found difficult to bring in balance to help both of them grow.

    had to constantly justify my actions to my daughter. Now that my son is no
    more, my daughter Dorothy still compares herself with my son Emmanuel, and I keep
    reminding her how lovable and precious she is and not to compare herself with
    her brother.

    definitely robs the joy from our lives, I found whenever I compared myself with
    others, I became sad and unhappy, and whenever I looked into myself and what I have
    to offer, I am filled with gratitude !

    1. I’m sure it was hard not to compare and for Dorothy too, she must have constantly felt that Emmanuel was getting all the attention, as much as you tried to be fair to her. But I think you managed well, because she was so protective and caring about him. 

  89. What you say is so true and harsh, you’ll find I agree with both you and Linda, I am just as confused as ever…lol <3

  90. YaY — We did it!  Probably not the smoothest blog hop opening in the cyber-world so far… but… oh …wait!  We don’t have to compare ourselves with others?  Let’s just say we’re AMAZING then, right?  And so it is!!!  Thank you for all that you are, Corinne!  XOXOX   

  91. I was in that bandwagon too…when my daughter was born…my sisters-in-law had also given birth to girls…all of them a few months apart and the comparisons just flew….then finally stopped when we realized that it was futile.
    When we are teenagers, i think it is the peer pressure to conform and be accepted that makes us compare.
    Comparison does robs you of your joy…you only learn it the hard way.

    I can’t find Linda’s post.

    1. Oh how we love to make comparisons between babies – glad you gave it up soon. 
      The teen years were hard enough for us. I can see that it’s just got harder for youngsters these days with television and social media to add to it! Linda’s post acted up very briefly, but it’s there now 🙂
      Waiting for your post, Janaki.

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