“That dreams come true is the biggest surprise ever,” says Freida Pinto, the new darling of Hollywood. I can only respond to that with that wonderful quote from John Updike that says, “Dreams come true. Without that possibility, nature would not incite us to have them“.
I loved listening to Kate Winslet‘s speech when she received her Oscar: “I’d be lying if I hadn’t made a version of this speech before, I think I was probably eight years old and staring into the bathroom mirror. And this (holding up her statuette) would’ve been a shampoo bottle. “Well, it’s not a shampoo bottle now! “
Which of us hasn’t played make-believe like Kate? Depending on what our dream was, we’ve played teachers, pilots, singers, soldiers, firemen (is it fireperson’s now?) and a host of other things. We’ve played at being a wife, mother, husband, father…….Which little girl hasn’t walked about in her mother’s shoes, dreaming of the days when she’d be all grown up?
But does it seem that only a few of us get to have our dreams come true? That may be true, only because many of us don’t believe in the power of our own dreams. If you have unfulfilled dreams, something that you’ve really longed for most of your life, but now have given up, I’ve got news for you : Dreams are renewable. No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new possibilities waiting to be born. (Dale Turner).
This is something I believe in very firmly. I’ve watched many of my dreams come true and know that the unfulfilled ones too will come true, in time.
How do you go about making your dreams, a reality? Here’s my list of 7 steps to make your dreams come true:
1. Visualize – Use your imagination to paint a mental image of your desire. Let’s say you dream of taking a world tour some day. Imagine yourself in all those places you want to visit. For example, ‘feel’ the snow as you ski down the Alps! Visualization is an important first step towards actualizing your dreams.
2. Recall – You need to nurture this image you have created in your imagination. You need to consciously recall this image of your desire to mind. Perhaps, a good idea is to surround yourself with pictures of all the places you want to visit. Every so often, take a hard look at these pictures, close your eyes and visualize yourself in those places.
3. Eliminate – get rid of negative thoughts and words. Don’t say, for example, “I’d love to travel around the world, but I’ll never be able to afford it.” Stop at the first part, “I’d love to travel around the world.”
4. Act – get real. Ask yourself, ‘What can I do today that will take me closer to making my dream a reality?” If you want that world tour, do you really need that pair of branded sunglasses? If you want to be in a good ‘special’ relationship, are you willing to give up spending loads of time with your drinking pals ? If you want a dream job, are you equipping yourself by learning the skills you need for it?
5. Be grateful – for all the positive things in your life. Spend a few moments each day giving thanks for all you have already. For example, while you’re taking a shower, send out gratitude for the sheer pleasure of water on your skin.
6. Be(a)ware – of your own resistance. Most often we ourselves are the number one cause for unrealized dreams. We put up barriers to our own growth. We’re afraid to spread our wings to fly. When our dreams don’t come true, we’re quite happy to blame other people, but don’t realize that the problem is most often within. Talking about overcoming resistance, Nick Williams says,: “Resistance is the unconscious force through which you self-sabotage, defeat yourself, talk yourself out of your brilliant ideas and by which you don’t follow through to become what you are.”
7. Let Go(d) – Once you’ve taken these steps and worked on yourself internally, let God take care of the externals. You’ll be surprised by the ‘miracles’ that come your way, once you are ‘tuned in’.
Good luck with your dreams, may you desire with all your heart to make them come true.