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If you eat well, you must speak well.
– Yoruba proverb
Over the last few years, I’ve cut myself off from certain people including some who have been friends for many, many years. This, was largely due to the fact that they began to act in a very hurtful manner towards me and I, having worked on my own self-esteem, realized that I couldn’t tolerate such behavior any more. I can say with all honesty that having them out of my life has freed me from a lot of stress and allowed me to grow.
However, the fact that they are no longer a part of my life does not mean that I am not grateful for their goodness to me in the past. No, I do remember past assistance, and times when these persons were there for me and stood by me. But sometimes that gets overshadowed by more recent behavior and actions. I’ll admit, it’s very hard to speak of them kindly. And that’s an area I would like to work on.
According to Iyanlya Vanzant, the ancient Africans taught that if a person is good to you, you must forever speak good of them. So the proverb, ‘if you eat well, you must speak well’ literally means that if you enjoyed someone’s hospitality, then you must always speak well of them, even if they no longer extend you the same courtesy.
Do you agree with this philosophy? And are you having a struggle like I am?
May you be inspired – everyday!