I have to use this forum to respond to you since I have no email address to write to.
I got your message a few days but a minor crisis in my life* prevented me from replying to you immediately.
I understand that right now you feel a bit cheated some people, insecure and unsure of what steps to take. I chose this picture to symbolise your situation – standing at the edge and not knowing what to do……Believe me I’ve been there a few times too.
Strangely enough, soon after I heard from you I too faced a brief time of fear, anxiety and insecurity. So I began to ask myself what sees me through in such situations – here are my answers:
Faith – According to Oswald Chambers, “Faith is deliberate confidence in the character of God whose ways you may not understand at the time.” I so agree. I believe in a God of Infinite Love. He cares for each of us personally and looks to our every need. Therefore, I believe that He always wants what’s best for us, even if we don’t see it at the time. So at times like this I
- Thank God for it,
- Ask for strength and wisdom to see me through the situation, and
- Ask Him to show me what I can learn from it.
Family – The Burmese say, ‘In time of test, family is best’. I’m grateful that I have a wonderful family I can lean on. And I do and have so far never been let down.
Friends – A good friend is cheaper than therapy, they say. I find it very comforting to talk to a friend about what I am going through. S/he need not have any answers or suggestions – just the fact that they care enough to listen is therapeutic.
Humor – Someone once said, ‘Every survival kit should include a sense of humor.’ I agree wholeheartedly. I believe there’s always humor to be found in every situation. And a little laughter goes a long way in easing the situation.
A Sense of Perspective – Knowing that there are others in the world, including many I know, who are going through a worse situation than I am, gives me a sense of perspective. I don’t see myself as a victim or the only one with a burden. In the words of that wise soul, Albert Einstein, ‘ When you look at yourself from a universal standpoint, something inside always reminds or informs you that there are bigger and better things to worry about’.
There’s a lot more I can write, but I’ll call a halt here. I just read this lovely Latin phrase in a book I was reading last week: Perfer Et Obdura; Dolor Hic Tibi Proderit Olim. It has a wealth of wisdom and I wish to say it to you…’Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you’.
So hang in there, dear Anonymous. Hold on to your faith, family, friends, sense of humor and perspective and know that ‘this too shall pass’.
* Thank you all for your response to my last post. My husband was diagnosed with cerebral malaria – it was all quite sudden and very worrying. Thankfully, he didn’t have to be hospitalised. He’s out of the woods and taking things easy. We’re grateful for so much….
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