Personal responsibility is a very important part of leading yourself.
The Master told the story of the hotel owner who complained bitterly about the effect on his business of a new highway the government had built.
“Look,” said a friend. “I just don’t understand you. I see a NO VACANCY sign each night in front of your hotel.”
“You can’t go by that. Before they built the highway I used to turn away thirty or forty people each day. Now I never turn away more than twenty-five.”
From Anthony D’Mello’s – One Minute Nonsense
As I look around, I see a tendency for us all to blame other people for our present state. We’re abusive because our parents were abusive. We are averse to learning because our teachers failed at their job. We are reluctant to work because the jobs available are not to our liking. We are unhappy because our partners are very bad at relating! The list goes on…..
Self leadership means that we realize that the buck stops with us. Yes, our circumstances shape us. But at this moment, ours is the choice to make. As Stephen Covey says, we are ‘response-able’.
- Action steps:
Think of two ‘problem’ areas in your life just now that are keeping you from being happy.
- Think of what the causes for these problems are. Do you think they are caused by external circumstances or others?
- Where will the solutions to these come from? Others? Change in external circumstances?
- Now use awareness and honesty to notice if you are playing the victim.
- What can YOU do to change the situation?
- Write down action steps you will take towards this?
- Start acting response-ably in these areas.
A sign of wisdom and maturity is when you come to terms with the realization that your decisions cause your rewards and consequences. You are responsible for your life, and your ultimate success depends on the choices you make. – – Denis Waitley, author and coach
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Today I’m on ‘R’ of the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge. My theme is the A to Z of Self Leadership. I’m also undertaking the NaBloPoMo for April – the theme is ‘grow’ and the Ultimate Blog Challenge.