While I was sleeping, I dreamt I heard a familiar voice. I had heard it a few times before when I was awake. But this time it sounded different – softer, gentler and kinder. It was the voice of my mirror that spoke to me in a dream. And the dream will stay with me forever.
“Dear One, why is that whenever you look into me, you do so with a feeling of dread? Why is it that you you constantly say things like “Look at that blemish” or “You’re looking old” or “Your wrinkles are showing.” Why are you so harsh and mean to yourself? Why can’t you see yourself, the way I see you?
And I can see that it is not just your looks that you fault yourself about. You keep berating yourself for poor choices from the past and mistakes you’ve made. Listen to the language you use when you’re talking to yourself. Look at the way you keep beating yourself up over trivial things. Why do you treat yourself in a way you wouldn’t dare to treat another?
You are worth all your love. Look into me, your mirror, and find the love of your life.
Honor your goodness. Be kind to yourself. “
“Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.”
– Christopher Germer
Some ways in which we can show self-compassion to ourselves especially when we’re feeling low and depressed after a setback, a failure or plans gone awry :
- Take care of your body. Eat something healthy. Have a luxurious bath. Lie down. Massage neck and shoulders. Relax.
- Talk kindly to yourself. What would you say to a friend who is going through a similar situation? Say that to yourself.
- Try some self-compassion exercises.
- Listen to this song.
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1000 Speak For Compassion – Theme: Self-compassion