There are times when José and I are discussing something and a painful memory might pop up. And I tell him that I don’t want to discuss the topic at that moment. Memories can be difficult and they bring with them a lot of pain, often unresolved. But I’ve learned over the last few years that no healing can take place without stirring the pot of distressing memories. “But the memories that hang heaviest are the easiest to recall. They hold in their creases the ability to change one’s life, organically, forever. Even when you shake them out, they’ve left…
