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Do You Know Your Lighthouses? #FridayReflections

I’ve always wonder how people live without lighthouses? Do you know your lighthouses?

Now before I go on to explain, let me share with you what is purported to be transcript of a US naval ship with Canadian authorities off the coast of Newfoundland, one version of which was used by Stephen Covey to talk about what he called ‘the lighthouse principles’:

Americans: “Please divert your course 15 degrees to the North to avoid a collision.”
Canadians: “Recommend you divert your course 15 degrees to the South to avoid a collision.”
Americans: “This is the captain of a US Navy ship. I say again, divert your course.”
Canadians: “No, I say again, you divert your course.”
Americans: “This is the aircraft carrier USS Abraham Lincoln. The second largest ship in the United States Atlantic Fleet. We are accompanies by three destroyers, three cruisers and numerous support vessels. I demand that you change your course 15 degrees north. That’s one five degrees north, or counter measures will be undertaken to ensure the safety of this ship.”
Canadians: “This is a lighthouse. It’s your call.”

Let’s think of our deepest values – integrity, commitment, love, faith as  lighthouses. They are the beacons that guide our lives. Our decisions are based on our lighthouses.

Do you know your lighthouses?

Thinking about this today, I realized how important it is for people to first of all know what their lighthouses are. In other words, what are the values you live by? 

If you realize what they are and live by them then no threat of attack from outside can shake you. You will remain steadfast. What people say about you won’t matter, you know that you are on the right path.

Looking back on my own experience, I realize that every time I tried to go against my own set of values, it resulted in brokenness for me. When I tried to compromise on things, I found it hard to live – life was meaningless. I was constantly lying to others, but mostly to myself. I couldn’t recognize ‘me’. It was only when I came back to being guided by my ‘lighthouses’ that I began to really live again.

I’ve interacted with people who are extremely confused about what their lighthouses were. They are absolutely lost, with no inner security. Any passing wind can take them away. Being that way must be ever so scary.

Are you aware of what your ‘lighthouses’ are? Are you living by your values?

 

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Last week, our featured writers were Roshan with his post To Hold On To Or Let Go Of (Your Beliefs For The Greater Good) and  Holly for her interesting take on the quote.
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Prompts for 10 March 2017

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  7. I love the analogy and the little story there 😀 It’s so true that when we deviate from our values, we end up being quite unhappy as we are being inauthentic. Great food for thought as always Corinne

  8. Esha Esha March 13, 2017

    I love this ‘lighthouse’ example from Covey having read him way back in the years when I was having it really tough. Your post got me thinking as it resonates with what I think about what our values should be. It is very important to be aware of our lighthouses. Some of us need that nudge every once in a while.

  9. Vinitha Vinitha March 10, 2017

    This a beautiful concept, Corinne. I do stand by my principles and beliefs but there were a few times when I slipped from my own principles. But there were some learnings too about myself from those slips. Let there be light in our light houses always! ☺

  10. SHALINI BAISIWALA SHALINI BAISIWALA March 10, 2017

    What a lovely thoughtful post Corinne – I never associated Lighthouses with such a reference, though I have been fascinated by them and looked for them at every beach/port town that I have visited.
    This is such a deeply layered post, that I am actually lost for words on what to say here! Thank you for sharing such beautiful thoughts. I love coming to your blog to read such powerful stuff!

    I think I do live by my emotions and beliefs 90% of the times…

    Cheers

  11. Alana Alana March 10, 2017

    I had to laugh – that lighthouse story is one of my favorites. But, in all seriousness…I wish I could say bravery was my #1 trait, but it isn’t – I have never heard of that quiz but now, I am going to have to find out for myself.

  12. Ruchi Verma Ruchi Verma March 10, 2017

    I think I am living on my values 🙂 I’m so strong and learned lessons in life and from parents that if you are ready to take appreciation, be ready to accept your failures and don’t leave your values at any cost, stay strong and I’m strong to fight any up and down in life 🙂

  13. Lata Sunil Lata Sunil March 10, 2017

    I had not thought of this till I had to stay alone when I went abroad for work. Being away from everyone familiar, I could do what I want like waking up late or eating chocolate for lunch, etc. But, I realised I was too rigid in my ways even when there was no need to be. I realised, I will be always this way.

  14. Nabanita Dhar Nabanita Dhar March 10, 2017

    I think I do, Corinne. And like you every time I have done something going against those values or ignoring them I have been unhappy and even anxious. It’s very important for me that my conscience is clear and that can only happen if I know my lighthouses and follow them.

  15. Modern Gypsy Modern Gypsy March 10, 2017

    That interaction between the Americans and Canadians made me laugh out loud, for real! Our lighthouses can anchor us and help us focus on what we want and the direction we want to head in, which is so useful to know, especially given all the loud noises on every aspect of life that you can find online!

  16. The Unknown Journey Ahead The Unknown Journey Ahead March 10, 2017

    Yes, I do know my lighthouses. I am human, so there are times I do not live up to my values. And, sometimes I am a bit more impatient with my disabled brother in law more than I would like. I want to be considered trustworthy, kind, and, most of all, faithful.

  17. Bellybytes Bellybytes March 9, 2017

    Our lighthouses are more like our anchors- that keep us from going astray and being untrue to ourselves. Time and again we listen to other voices that tell us to adapt compromise and sell ourselves short only to find ourselves even more unhappy. You are absolutely right in pointing out the need to recognise our lighthouses that show us the way in the dark. Thanks!

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