He’s been suffering from Alzheimer’s for the last few years. He hardly remembers anything. His wife takes care of everything. At present she has a lot of hard decisions to take as the building they live in is going to be redeveloped. Her entire focus is on trying to find another place that is as big as the present one, close to the present one, etc. If you think she’s being fussy, you’re mistaken. All she’s trying to do is make sure that her husband of thirty odd years, has the kind of space he’s used to and is close to the friends he might remember on a good day. To someone who empathized with her situation, all she said is: “It’s all worth it, when he smiles and says ‘thank you'”.
Another man, who just lost his wife of sixty years, has been hospitalized. He keeps looking out for his wife and asking for her………
Yet another man died exactly two years to the day his wife died. He had been told that the grave she was buried in couldn’t be touched for two years. He couldn’t wait to be with her, but waited for two years to be buried in the same grave!
Unfortunately, when we talk of great love, it’s usually the tragic stories of unrequited love that get told again and again – Romeo and Juliet, Salim and Anarkali, Laila and Majnu……..Yet all around us we have examples of great love – all the three ‘stories’ are about people I know. These are about the kind of love that has been worked on, day after day, year after year – the love that comes from shared lives, shared joys, shared sorrows, watching together as your children and later your grandchildren take their place in the world.
As I watch my Dad take care of my mother after her stroke, making sure she gets her food, soup, juices and medicines on time, I see great love in action. I recall the words of that lovely song – one of John Lennon’s final songs written in the ’80s:
Grow old along with me
The best is yet to be
When our time has come
We will be as one
God bless our love
God bless our love
May you be inspired – every day!