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I’m not cheese – age doesn’t seem to matter to me! 😉

Sometime ago I bumped in to a whole of people who I knew about 20 years back. They were all much younger than me and truth be told, looked ancient! I turned to a friend who’s about my age and said “Is it my imagination or do they look old?” And he said: “Oh yes, they look older than us!” We had a good laugh about that – because even if it wasn’t true, it made us feel good!

I often wonder why many people have such a problem accepting and revealing their age. I see loads of older men and women with jet black hair and jowls hanging up to their knees!! Okay, I’m exaggerating, but you get the idea.

I’m going to be 48 this year – I can’t believe that I’ve reached middle age and am so close to 50. I may look it, but I certainly don’t feel it. I have loads of grey hair, have had cataract surgeries, wear spectacles, have creaking bones (!!) and some of my school mates have kids who are married but I still feel like I’ve got my whole life stretching in front of me.

My parents are 87 and 85 and I laugh when they refer to someone younger than them as ‘that old man/ woman’, little realizing their own age.

I’m sure a lot of you out there feel that you are much younger (or older) than you really are.

Is age a state of mind you think? And if so, what’s your ‘real’ age and the age in your head?

 

PS: This was published a while back as a guest post in a blog that has since closed down. If you’re thinking of shutting down your blog, ask me to do a guest post! 😉

61 Comments

  1. Bohemian Babushka ( Bohemian Babushka ( January 5, 2014

    BB is 51 yrs old physically- though depending on the day, what I did the night before, where I’m going and who I’ll be around determines what age I’ll actually look and feel like. OH- and the days I spend w/my grandbabies will have that age fluctuating constantly! I guess it’s partly genetic because my 92 year old grandmother says the same thing. ; )

    I enjoy being in the Sisterhood of the #SexySilverLifelites and whatever age I happen to be that day, I am always grateful to greet it. BB2U
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  2. G Angela G Angela August 8, 2013

    Enjoyed this post corinne ! agreed totally with you ! age is just numbers I have crossed 50 and am surprised I still am enthusiastic and love the way I am moving ahead, people around me say that I look much younger than my age.. I am counting my age with the number of smiles.. so happy to read this post, and also was entertained by the honest comments here ! thanks for sharing …
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  3. Irene Irene August 2, 2013

    Well Corinne, you’re the coolest 47-year-old I know! 🙂

    I’ll be turning 30 next month (wait, really that would be next month already?! I’m still in denial lol) but I don’t feel at all like I’ll be leaving my 20s anytime soon. People always tell me that I (am blessed to have) youthful looks, but regardless, I’m sure the functions of my body will decline (like my reproductive function, etc). Yet I feel like my heart is becoming more childlike and my spirit getting more youthful as I get older. 🙂
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  4. Pixie Pixie August 1, 2013

    I agree with you! Age is just a number!!
    I’m 33 and I don’t feel it or look it! 😉 (according to me anyway! :P)
    And yea, all my contemporaries have children and some even have children in middle school and here I am thinking that now’s the best time to have a baby!! 😛
    I have so much to do, so many things to see, places to visit! 🙂

  5. Susan Deborah Susan Deborah August 1, 2013

    I always like to call myself ageless and fit into no age bracket. For different activities, my age seems different. Sometimes I feel that I have so much to do and sometimes I feel that I have seen it all. Well, being ageless makes things easier. That said and done, I’m loving my 30s – they’re fun till now. I still have some more years for the 30s to pass by but as of now, life is great! And as you’ve rightly observed, the young ones do look older but definitely not wiser 😉

    Joy always,
    Susan

  6. Ruch Ruch August 1, 2013

    You know I still feel as if I am in my 20s and not 30. I don’t feel my age at all ! Its all in the head ! seriously !

  7. Doctor Mary A. Williams Doctor Mary A. Williams August 1, 2013

    Hi, Corinne! I’m 61 years old, but I feel as young as my son (35 years old)… With time, our bodies might change and age, but the most important thing is important to keep our minds young… It makes any disease more easy to defeat and any happy moment more intense 🙂

  8. Apoorva Apoorva July 31, 2013

    Long back I read ..Age is a matter of mind..if you don’t mind it doesn’t matter.. yes a cliche these days but I still so much believe in it…have never understood these jokes of women hiding their age.. Those years bring so much peace and grace ..you are so at ease with yourself and the world around you… Age is a number and I was never good in mathematics!
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  9. Jas Jas July 31, 2013

    Age is just a number . I am in my early 30s and so much more happy and content than I was in my 20s. So I guess Age is what you feel about yourself. Good post Corinne.
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  10. Suzy Suzy July 31, 2013

    I’m 53 but my mind’s stuck on 25. The body however reminds me often that 25 was left behind a while ago. I’m happy being 53 – the years have taught me a lot and I’ve done a lot too. I love the words of the song “those were the days” … oh my friend we’re older but no wiser for in our hearts the dreams are still the same. In the end age doesn’t matter, for the dreams live on.
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  11. InJensMind InJensMind July 31, 2013

    I never understood why people lied about their age either. Maybe it’s because I knew so many people who died way before their prime or time. Well, in my opinion anyway. Who am I to say when someone should be born or die.

    I have never lied or hid my age. I just turned 38 on the 17th. When I was younger I was always mistaken for older. In fact, once my mother took my sister {Jess} and my brother to the beach. She laid on the beach tanning whilst I had my siblings with me in the water. Not too deep since Jess nor I could swim then. A grown man in his 30’s came up to talk to me. I was barely 13, I think. He complimented me on my beautiful children. Umm, these are my siblings and I’m 13, pervert. Yes, great times. As I got older my mom reveled in people calling her and I sisters. I’d shake my head, walk away, and let her get the attention that she so obviously needed. I never got carded until my 30’s when a woman thought I was 15. It was right after I cut all my hair off, but still. LOL

    Society keeps telling women that they must look, dress, act, be a certain way and frankly it makes me sick. Who are these people to tell me what to be and why do these strangers care so much? How can women love themselves fully if they constantly have to hide who they are on the inside and outside? And why are we, as their sisters, allowing it to happen? Are women so nasty, bitter, and jealous that we must tear down other women to make ourselves feel better? All women and men too, should be proud of who they are and how old they are. Excuse me for saying old, I meant be proud of the years they have lived. Some people never get to be our age, and some get past it but never live, just exist and barely that.

    So yes Corinne, rock on with your age and grey hairs. I will rock on alongside you and scream, “WE ARE WOMEN AND WE AREN’T SCARED.” Of course, I will be doing it with dyed hair because I’ve had those white buggers since I was 19 and like with makeup, I don’t have to be embarrassed for my age but I can be presentable. LOL

  12. Meena Menon Meena Menon July 31, 2013

    A V interesting post Cory..,. something I hv been conciously trying to tell me my mind everyday 🙂

  13. Rachna Rachna July 31, 2013

    I am actually so happy in my 30s, Corinne. I will be touching 40 next year. And I seriously love this lady that I am! Wiser, more mature, fitter, more relaxed too now that I am behind the birthing and initial parenthood years, more confident of my capabilities and looks too! Yes, age can pull you down if you let it pull you down! It is our approach to life that takes us forward!
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  14. Bhavya Bhavya July 31, 2013

    My mom keeps telling me “settle down girl, you’re 26!” And this is my favourite reply – that age is nothing more than a number 😀 So now you know my answer 😉
    I don’t have an age as of now, but I think I would want to be forever 25. It was an year that made me what I am now. But then, I am a teenager with my friends, a 4 year old girl to my daddy and so on 😀 😀
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  15. usha menon usha menon July 31, 2013

    Age is only a number. It is how we feel and act that matters most. I am 77 and still feel that that there is so much more for me to gain from life. I learnt to use the computer when I was 70. I play games and keep blogging. I wrote a book about my experiences in my profession and personal life two years ago. I love to cook new things for my family and friends. I learnt to make chocolates and cakes, which are relished by my grand children. I really appreciate your parents’ approach to life. Corinne I really loved your post.

  16. Dagny Dagny July 31, 2013

    I never grew after I crossed 17 Corinne. I have been on the verge of 18 ever since! Over time, I have just become an 18 yr old with joints a tad stiffer than they were earlier. No greys yet, thankfully. 18yr olds with grey hair make me feel sad. 🙂

    LOVED your PS. Now you know why you don’t age…. as long as you can laugh at yourself, how can you?

    Middle age is for grumpy people. 😀
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  17. Diana Pinto Diana Pinto July 31, 2013

    Age is definitely a state of mind. For some reason I always think I’m still in my teens, may be because I’m the youngest in the family. If you feel young then definitely you would look young and stay healthy as well. I’m comfortable disclosing my age but I also like to keep people guessing 😉

  18. Alka Gurha Alka Gurha July 31, 2013

    Love the quote. Yep, apart from creaking joints and strands of grey all is well. I am so much wiser compared to the naive, impatient, stupid 23 year old who got married 24 years ago.

  19. Shail Shail July 31, 2013

    I feel the same Corinne, and I am even older! Some younger people have such a jaded outlook to life that makes them seem much older than the older ones.
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  20. Sheela Sheela July 31, 2013

    We all are 18 with (_________) years of experience!!!
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  21. Talya Tate Boerner Talya Tate Boerner July 31, 2013

    I just turned 51. In my head I’m 30. Sometimes 13. Sometimes 21. Just depends. But never 51. I have no idea how 51 feels:))

  22. Mary Stephenson Mary Stephenson July 31, 2013

    Hi Corinne

    Don’t think too much about age (66) but it is all how you think you are. Hubby (70) and I went to the senior center in our area to see if we could make any connections and may be do a little volunteering. We walked away knowing we did not belong. They were all so much older than us, although we knew full well that many were much younger. But they had settled into puttering around doing crafts, socializing with a simple pace of life. We did not belong. They had music with a band (I grew up with rock n roll) Rolling Stones, Temptations, etc… they had old 20’s and 30’s music. We were thinking who are these people? They stopped living years ago and are just biding time until they die. And we thought do we want to be a part of “Did you hear that Bill died last week or Jane had a stroke a couple of days ago”. Not a conversation of life and so we did not return. We also knew that these places will never be for us, no matter how old we get.

    It surely is about how old you really think you are and it is not so much a number but a state of mind. Wisdom is the milestone I wear with honor, not the number of years I have had on this earth.

    Mary
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  23. Melissa Melissa July 31, 2013

    I’m turning 37 on September, my life’s just beginning now so my mind’s set on my early twenties and my heart is that of a child’s 😛 ~ It struck me that most people I meet here and in real life tell me that I look younger than my actual age 😛 I jibe well with the youth and children, hahaha…most probably because I am one 😉 When I think of age, it’s just, maybe the fact that my chances of having kids of my own become less 😛 But whatever, I have the option to adopt 😀

    Maybe not cheese, it rots after sometime ~ wine is better 😉 It tastes divine as it ages 😀 (so I’m careful not to be fermented, otherwise, I’ll taste like vinergar, ahahaha!) Love you BS!

    *Sharing my guest post at http://www.vishnusvirtues.com/unveiled-my-life-and-lessons-as-a-nun/

  24. Hiten Hiten July 31, 2013

    Hi Corinne,

    Wonderful post, indeed!

    I believe that age is a state of mind. I’m 34 and still feel like I’m 24! I’m looking forward to getting older and hopefully the older I get, the younger I’ll continue to feel!

    Thank you.
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  25. Kajal Kajal July 31, 2013

    Am I supposed to tell you my age on this one? Well I am 37 and feel like 28…actually people who meet me usually tell me that! For me age is just a number and I always believe there is so much more of life ahead that so really has time for numbers?

    Anyway, I love the smirk at the end of the post…are you hinting? Would you like to be invited over at my place? Would you accept?
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    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues August 1, 2013

      You didn’t have to tell us your age – and I wouldn’t have guessed either, Kajal! 😉
      And why do you want to close down your blog? 🙂
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  26. Martha Orlando Martha Orlando July 31, 2013

    Age is definitely a state of mind, Corinne. I think that nurturing our inner child is a great way to stay young at heart even when our wrinkles and graying hair say otherwise.
    Great, and humorous, post my friend!
    Blessings!
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  27. privytrifles privytrifles July 30, 2013

    Feels great to be here after a long time 😀

    Age is just a number as per me Corinne!!

    I stopped aging right after I turned 24. So today irrespective of my age I still feel 24!

  28. Leah Leah July 30, 2013

    Hi Corinne you young chicky poo! LOL! I feel ageless. Like you, I am not cheese. I feel like a vibrant soul. My body is 56 and it has its share of aches and pains, but these bodies were not made to last. They die. We don’t. We are spirits that have been issued body-uniforms for our short stint here on the earth. I really don’t identify with my body that much any more.
    Interesting subject;)
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    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | July 31, 2013

      Loved the ‘body-uniforms’ bit, Leah. You’re so right – our souls live on!
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  29. Sulekha ( Sulekha ( July 30, 2013

    Corinne, I am a couple of years ahead of you and will be 50 in six months 🙂 My dad was forever young and I am following in footsteps. Loved reading your post, best wishes for staying young forever.

  30. Roshni Roshni July 30, 2013

    I have already chosen to stay 35 for the rest of my life!! I loved that age because I became much more comfortable and confident about myself in my 30’s! My parents too are physically and mentally so younger; I aspire to be like that!! 🙂
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  31. Rekha Rekha July 30, 2013

    Age certainly is a number that matters…but behaving according to tradional set of ideas does not hold true any longer. You are at a particular age once so one must enjoy each and every phase and live it to fullest no matter what age.
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    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | July 30, 2013

      Right you are, Rekha! We mus enjoy our life and live it on our terms – no matter what age or what people might prescribe!
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  32. Aditi Aditi July 30, 2013

    Age is absolutely a state of mind!! What coincidence that you had to post this today!! Today,in my dance class our instructor was lecturing us that we need to push ourselves harder and blah blah… who is aged just 17, 10 years younger to me..I was kind of going through a struggle in my mind…cursing myself why didn’t I pursue my passion right through school n college bt at the same time proud of the fact that I take out time and manage to dance now!! It is now, that matters!! Right?? So all you fabulous people out there…whatever age you are…celebrate YOU!! ( oh n just so u know the youngest in my class is 11 n I’m but obvious the eldest)
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    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | July 30, 2013

      Oh it’s absolutely never too late to learn anything, Aditi! My Dad started using the computer at 81! So go for your dreams.
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  33. umashankar umashankar July 30, 2013

    Loved the bit about your parents calling people younger to them old! They must be a lot fresher than the run-of-the-mill humanity. No wonder you are a chip of the old block(s)!

    It is more of a case of fitness, both body and mind. A nice read, Corinne.
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    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | July 30, 2013

      What I didn’t mention is that they talk about some ‘boys’ and ‘girls’ – only these boys and girls are in their sixties! Thanks for the compliment, USP – but my parents are much younger than I am! I think that age is clearly a state of mind.
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  34. afshan afshan July 30, 2013

    My mental age is 16 and my mind thinks that my physical age is 18 😉
    feel good post Corinne
    Keep smiling
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  35. Debbie Debbie July 30, 2013

    Ha! You’re just a youngun’ Corinne! 😀 I’m 58 and my husband is 63. We will be celebrating our 40th anniversary this weekend. Just to type that and say it out loud is astonishing. We look at each other in amazement! My husband especially appears to be much younger – about 15 years. People aren’t quite as generous when assessing me, but don’t believe my real age either. Mental attitude has a lot to do with it as well. Still functioning in “hippie/rockchick” mode! 😉 I quit dyeing my hair last year – life is too short for such drudgery – and now it’s turning into a lovely shade of silver. You can see that on my blog post “Pushing 60: Grey is the New Blonde”. You’re as old/young as you want to be! (Arthritis and other ills notwithstanding.)
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    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | July 30, 2013

      Wow! A 40th anniversary, Debbie! Congratulations in advance.
      I really don’t care what age people put me at – as long as I feel young within and I do! I’m glad you’re letting your hair go natural – I do think grey looks so good too!
      My parents celebrated their 62 anniversary in January this year! 🙂
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  36. Dangerous Linda Dangerous Linda July 30, 2013

    First of all, 5o is NOT middle age, Silly Girl! You are showing just how young and naive you really are 😉 I consider 75 to be approximately middle age, although I hate to even say that because I don’t want to put a lid on my possibilities to early…

    I love myself and my life more every single day! I’m smarter, healthier, prettier, happier, more powerful and have the most amazing boyfriend ever! From my experience, so far, I would have to say AGING IS AWESOME!!!!

    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | July 30, 2013

      I knew you’d just have to comment, Linda! 😉 Yes, aging is awesome – I’m loving it! I feel myself getting wiser and more at peace with myself.

      My parents seem to agree with you on middle age, it appears. Sometimes I get tired just listening to all the social engagements they have in one day!
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  37. Vaisakh Vaisakh July 30, 2013

    😀 I have always felt that newer generation feel older than they are. I already have spectacles, grey hair and (possibly) creaky bones 😐
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    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | July 30, 2013

      I too feel I have a lot to do, Adriana, but I’m not in a rush! 😉
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