The Practice Of Being Real

“Forget about being impressive and commit to being real. Because being real is impressive!”
― Jonathan Harnisch

I’m attempting to be real.

Being real takes practice.

It also takes a lot of inner courage.

But most of all it takes awareness.

How do I know what drives my response to a particular situation?

Just speaking the ‘truth’ as I see it – may not really be the ‘truth’ at all.

But does that mean I need to be quiet and not speak my mind?

I have to walk the fine line between hurting people and speaking my truth.

It’s hard not to want to be popular

But I’ve been there and done that

And it’s way too much work.

I’ve had my share of sitting at the cool kids’ table

And the shine has worn off.

I’ll sit with the real folks

Thank you very much.

Either you take me for who I am

Or you don’t

I’m not going to make the effort to change to suit you.

Like the Skin Horse, I’ll accept

That I’m ugly to those who don’t understand me.

I’m not trying to be impressive anymore

Being Real is pretty impressive too.


“Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’

‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit.

‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.’

‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit?’

‘It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”
― Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

Do you think being real is worth the effort?

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