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Chipping Away #FridayReflections

According to legend, an awestruck admirer looked at Michelangelo’s finished statue of David and asked him how he had done it. To which Michelangelo replied: “David was always there in the marble. I just took away everything that was not David.”

Chipping Away

I have heard this before, but when I re-read it recently, it struck me very deeply. I began to look inward and apply this to myself. I can truly say that I have begun to work on all that is ‘not Corinne’. In the past, my definition of myself was really hazy, but now I see who I am much more clearly and am working on chipping away all the unnecessary stuff.

I believe our journey towards being ourselves is a journey towards being real – towards being authentic. I found that the best way was to consciously identify the values that are most important to me.

“The thing that is really hard and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” ~ Anna Quindlen

I always recall the story of the little boy who came home from school with a pencil that wasn’t his. His father lectured him on the evils of stealing and then proceeded to say, “Son, the next time you want a new pencil let me know, I’ll get one from the office.” I often ask myself:  Does my behavior reflect my values?

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The Real Me

Finding a way to express our feelings about a situation or a behavior that causes us pain is also part of being authentic. I try to remember the distinction between being real and being right. My feelings about a situation or someone’s behavior are based on my perceptions and they may not always be right. However, I cannot pretend that I don’t have these feelings. So I try to find a way of sharing them in a way that is real. (Read more about this in Mike Robbin’s article, here).

The strange thing is sometimes people find it hard to accept the ‘real’ me. I find that people have a certain notion of who I am, and when I don’t live up to this, they are often disappointed. I wrote about this experience a while back – ‘Being Too Nice Is Not Nice’. Now,  I’d rather be real than nice. I also found that learning to say ‘no’ was a very important step in being authentic.

I have realized an important truth: you might disappoint people, but your desire to be authentic must outweigh your fear of being unpopular.

There are areas in my life that I am still struggling to be authentic in. Like Michelangelo, I need to be able to consistently focus on the inside and keep chipping away at all that is not ‘me’.

 

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Prompts for 13 April 2018

  1. What do you reveal about yourself to a stranger on a plane?
  2. “The thing that is really hard and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” ~ Anna Quindlen
  3. Image prompt (via Corinne Rodrigues)

 


7 Comments

  1. Nabanita Dhar Nabanita Dhar April 16, 2018

    Being real is so important. But first we need to be real to our own selves first. That will make things easier. A reflective post, Corinne.

  2. Rajlakshmi Rajlakshmi April 16, 2018

    It’s really really hard to be true to yourself when friends are concerned and they ask you to do something that doesn’t match your ideals. Two letters -NO… And yet so hard to say. Your post strengthens my resolve to say no when I believe that I should.

  3. lovetowritewithtea lovetowritewithtea April 15, 2018

    Being real or being Right. I always always have this back in my mind . I was a little strict to myself to be right first then I did what I wanted. And now I just make sure I don’t hurt anyone and I try to be myself:)good post.

  4. Obsessivemom Obsessivemom April 15, 2018

    Being real is important and liberating too. It’s exhausting if you’re always trying to be what you should be. I’ve been there often enough. I think with age we get a clear picture of what we are and what we want to be and also the courage to get to our real selves.

  5. Shilpa Garg Shilpa Garg April 14, 2018

    This is something that I needed to read today. I am so torn between what I should be really doing AND “should, have to, ought to, obligations and duties”. I must think of chipping away of some of the unwanted/unnecessary things. Thanks for a thought-provoking post, Corinne!

  6. BellyBytes BellyBytes April 13, 2018

    Ah Corinne don’t you think your perception of yourself also changes with time ? I find that I’m becoming more aware of myself as I grow older …. thanks for this thought provoking post

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