I asked for your prayers the other day. I’m sad to say that beautiful young girl didn’t survive the dengue fever.
Rest In Peace, Tejaswee…..
(Indian Homemaker) is a blogger friend to many…..Many of us have never met Indian Homemaker, and don’t know her real name, but her passion for various causes, her love of animals and her warmth and humor have touched us in different ways.
As much as we’d like to reach out to this mother in person – we can’t – so we will need to use words….and sometimes our words will be platitudes…….So if we really care, let’s pledge not to use platitudes and worn-out statements – they won’t assuage her pain. Let’s listen and be there for her even when it might be uncomfortable for us.
Let’s take our advice from another Mom who lost her beloved child…….
Please don’t tell me you know how I feel,
Unless you have lost your child too,
Please don’t tell me my broken heart will heal,
Because that is just not true,
Please don’t tell me my son is in a better place,
Though it is true, I want him here with me,
Don’t tell me someday I’ll hear his voice, see his face,
Beyond today I cannot see,
Don?t tell me it is time to move on,
Because I cannot,
Don?t tell me to face the fact he is gone,
Because denial is something I can’t stop,
Don’t tell me to be thankful for the time I had,
Because I wanted more,
Don’t tell me when I am my old self you will be glad,
I’ll never be as I was before,
What you can tell me is you will be here for me,
That you will listen when I talk of my child,
You can share with me my precious memories,
You can even cry with me for a while,
And please don’t hesitate to say his name,
Because it is something I long to hear everyday,
Friend please realize that I can never be the same,
But if you stand by me, you may like the new person I become someday.
( Poem written by Judi Walker in memory of her son Shane – 1998)
May Tejaswee’s family find the strength to cope with this loss…..