I’m a person of contradictions. Who isn’t? So last week, I wrote about the need to have a positive outlook. But this week, I’m looking at why focusing on the bright side isn’t always good advice. I stand by both points of view!
Whether you’re reading a self help book or scrolling through your Instagram feed– you’ll find tonnes of advice and quotes revolving around positive thinking, and how you should try to focus on the bright side of your life as much as you can. The advice is sound and helpful no doubt, but it does come with its share of downsides as well.
Why Focusing on the Bright Side Isn’t Always Good Advice
Its Plain Denial
While looking at the bright side of everything does have its benefits, going overboard with it and not accepting the tough situations as they are is simply just being in denial. Stopping yourself from viewing things as what they are isn’t going to be helpful to you in any way. It’ll in fact, affect your mindset more negatively than you can imagine, because deep down, you know the problems are there, your situation is what it is- you just don’t want to accept it.
Acceptance is Healing
The first step to healing is acceptance, and if you can’t get there, you’re actually stuck. Most psychologists believe that a certain amount of criticism, pain, judgement and doubt is absolutely necessary, since it is with these things that comes the desire to bring about a change.
It is just how things work in this paradoxical life- to experience true happiness, you have to experience pain. To understand speech, you have to be fluent in silence.
Most of the time, the wrong in our life is there to serve us- it is there for a good reason- to make us change, or to help us see what can be changed, or to push us towards doing what we can to make things change.
We Lose Our Path
Focusing on the bright side of your life all the time can never bring you growth. If you’re always contented and happy with your life, and you don’t feel there’s anything wrong (even if there is), you won’t ever want to change anything, and that will stunt your growth as a person. You won’t ever want to turn into the best version of yourself if you don’t feel there’s anything flawed. If the fact that where you are doesn’t hurt you or cause you pain, you will never want to put in the effort to come out of the situation. Acknowledging the obstacles and hurdles will only encourage you to overcome them- as opposed to thinking ‘they aren’t there!’
Your ability to judge yourself, criticise yourself and pay attention to the ‘bad’ in your life is actually what helps drive you towards making change, and what pushes you towards improving and emerging victorious from your current situation.
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