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Listening Is An Act Of Love #MondayMusings

I remember a session on listening which went very wrong and right at the same time. The trainer made an error of judgement when he asked a participant to share something personal about himself. The rest of us were asked to listen and then make suitable empathetic responses. The participant began to share. But what he shared was deeply personal and full of emotion. The trainer turned to us, a group of ten odd people, and asked us to respond empathetically. People tried to respond, but their responses sounded so trite in light of the depth of his emotions. A friend and I had no response to make. Too moved by what he shared, we chose to remain silent.

At the end of the session, we gathered courage and went up to him to explain how we were silent only because any other response seemed trivial. He told us, that our silence was the only response he truly appreciated!

Listening is an act of love. It demands that we be completely present to the other person. Most often, that means a meaningful silence, a hug or an arm around the other’s shoulder. When we truly listen with our hearts, we make space for the other to be herself or himself.

I’m convinced that if every one had at least one person that listened to them without judgement and made space for them to be themselves, the world would be an infinitely better place.

Do you agree? 

listening is an act of love

When Someone Deeply Listens to You
When someone deeply listens to you
it is like holding out a dented cup
you’ve had since childhood
and watching it fill up with
cold, fresh water.
When it balances on top of the brim,
you are understood.
When it overflows and touches your skin,
you are loved.
When someone deeply listens to you
the room where you stay
starts a new life
and the place where you wrote
your first poem
begins to glow in your mind’s eye.
It is as if gold has been discovered!
When someone deeply listens to you
your barefeet are on the earth
and a beloved land that seemed distant
is now at home within you.
– John Fox

Today I am rather belatedly writing for the 1000 Voices of Compassion (click on the link for more posts and read about it below). The theme for this month is ‘Listening’. You can also find #1000Speak on Facebook,Twitter, the blog or the hashtag #1000Speak on social media. I am proud to have written for #1000Speak on the topics of Compassion, Bullying and Acceptance.

I’m also linking in to Write Tribe’s #MondayMusings post.



  1. Robyn Robyn August 30, 2015

    Interesting that the ONE thing I’m working at being better at, you choose to write about. I’ve discovered over the last few months that I am not a very good listener, even when I think I am. It takes practice, so, I’m practicing! Thanks for this Corinne!

  2. Shilpa Garg Shilpa Garg August 30, 2015

    Listening is a great skill and art that is so underrated. While we are taught about other forms of communication in schools and colleges (written and verbal communication and body language), listening is something that we have not been taught consciously. But it is something worth cultivating. Being a good listener helps us to not only solve many problems at work or home, but also to see the world through the eyes of others!

    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | August 30, 2015

      You’re so right, Shilpa. I feel we learn the mechanics of listening but not the soul of it!

  3. Esha M Dutta Esha M Dutta August 27, 2015

    This post did wonders for me. I was having a difficult time and had a friend to ‘unburden’ just by talking about all those things that were bothering me! I can’t tell you what magic it worked upon my soul just to know that I had somebody who was not judging me for being the person that I am. No matter how grown up and mature we get with our years behind us, somewhere there always lurks a little child who wishes to get things out and feel free once again, as if he/she was in fetters and was waiting for some sort of liberation! I have been so inspired Corinne, that I decided to write on the fine art of listening itself!!! Would love to know what you think of it 🙂

    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | August 27, 2015

      Thank you so much for sharing, Esha. Aren’t we blessed to have people in our lives we can ‘unburden’ ourselves to. I’m glad you have your friend.
      I saw that you’ve written a post – in fact, I have your blog open on another window, but haven’t read it yet. Will be reading and commenting soon. ♥

  4. Darla M Sands Darla M Sands August 27, 2015

    This is a good reminder. I’m a much better listener, or reader and gentle commenter, as the case goes. I feel better for reading this.

    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | August 28, 2015

      Thanks for sharing, Darla. I think most introverted people make better listeners. Do you agree?

  5. Sacha Sacha August 26, 2015

    I love your posts, they are always full of emotional intelligent lolz I wrote a post called “Empathy is the key to success” sometimes the best action of love that we can do is to sit next to our loved once and listen without judging or giving our “advice”.

    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | August 28, 2015

      I try, Sacha! 😉 And you’re so right about empathy. It’s being, not doing!

  6. Ajay Pai Ajay Pai August 26, 2015

    To listen is an art. I almost, immediately tend to reply. Uhmm.. i guess, its high time, i mend my ways. Thanks for the reminder.

    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | August 28, 2015

      It happens to the best of us, Ajay. So long as we’re aware we can attempt to be more sensitive!

  7. Wendy Tomlinson Wendy Tomlinson August 26, 2015

    This post really touched my heart. My dad was a true example of someone who listened without the need to say anything. I miss him dearly and try every day to be a good listener without the need to jump in and say something. We all need to be listened to and to listen. In my work I’m very good at listening, in my personal life it’s something I’m still working on. This is a truly lovely post Corrine and I’ve shared it on various sites. Thank you. x

    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | August 26, 2015

      How lovely that you had a great example in your Dad, Wendy. I can understand why you miss him so much. Non-judgemental listeners are so hard to find.

      Isn’t it strange how our professional lives and personal lives are sometimes at a variance? I too am attempting to practice listening with love at home first.

      Thank you for sharing, Wendy. x

  8. Elsa Elsa August 26, 2015

    Lately I’ve been making a conscious effort to listen more. You’re right, listening is an act of love, and sometimes we just need to listen!

  9. Colleen Colleen August 25, 2015

    I agree Corinne. I know I am guilty of judging rather than listening with love at times. I consider myself lucky because although in a way, it’s humiliating when discovered to be judging another person without understanding them or knowing them, the times that it has been discovered, I have been able to learn to at least try better the next time. And when necessary to humble myself by apologizing. 🙂

    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | August 26, 2015

      I understand exactly what you mean, Colleen. While I might not enjoy being called out, eventually I too see the lesson to be learnt. We might have the best of intentions, but we must also learn the right skills!
      So lovely to see you here. I think of you and your lovely little family with joy! Love to William and Carlos.

  10. Susie Susie August 25, 2015

    As a hypnotherapist I amm acutely aware that most people just require listening to…thanks for telling the world Corinne 🙂

    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | August 25, 2015

      I’m glad to have a professional underline my beliefs. Thanks, Susie!

  11. Vishal Bheeroo Vishal Bheeroo August 25, 2015

    Listening is an art Corinne, I feel. Today, people only talk but hardly listen which is a quality in a human being.

    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | August 25, 2015

      It is an art that requires a lot of love, Vishal. Thank you!

  12. Parul Parul August 25, 2015

    Thanks for sharing that story and silence is many times the best response. In a hurry to respond, we forget what will the other person will feel. Right words are so important and should be used only in the right context. Any other combination can prove deadly for the life of a relationship!

    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | August 25, 2015

      You’re so right, Parul. A lack of empathy is definitely a way to kill a relationship.

  13. Anamika Agnihotri Anamika Agnihotri August 25, 2015

    I can understand this. I have one such friend who listens to all my thoughts – happy, sad, comic and utterly silly too. Telling her all I have never felt foolish. We used to live in different countries until sometime back but distance was never an issue. I try to reciprocate the same.

    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | August 25, 2015

      It’s wonderful when we have that someone who gets us, Anamika. I’m glad that my husband is there for me!

  14. Shailaja Shailaja August 25, 2015

    I find that silence works so much better and in so many more ways than words can. Words (when we talk) are rarely thought through, silence is always measured. Listening makes us better practitioners of silence. Even in day to day interactions, we find fewer people willing to listen and more of them ready to talk.

    Listening is also a good way to pause before reacting/responding to a situation. How often I have held my tongue- in reality and on social media- because I did not want to say something I regretted. We live and learn, don’t we, Corinne? 🙂

    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | August 25, 2015

      Right, Shailaja. I wonder why we are so uncomfortable with silence. I find this especially true of us in India. Even online, when someone shares something personal, we rush to offer advice and solutions. Like I mentioned in my response to Irish’s comment, I find that I too tend to talk more these days, and it’s something I’m consciously trying to work on. Living and learning…I guess that’s what it’s all about, no?

  15. Irish Carter Irish Carter August 25, 2015

    Awesome discussion and post! I’ve stated out loud a few times to the group I was speaking to that I wasn’t looking for advice or input but just needed to say something out loud when I had something I needed to say out loud. I just needed to release the fears and frustrations I was going through and let it go. I guess I wanted to have my feelings validated but at the same time just feel supported. Guess what? It didn’t work. The ones I shared it with piped in their two cents anyways. It’s very frustrating.

    Great post and topic.


    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues Post author | August 25, 2015

      Thanks for sharing, Irish. I believe that most of us are uncomfortable with deep feelings and silence. We have to rush to fill, what we perceive to be a void. Do you think we can be trained to be different? Is real listening a learnt behaviour or something that comes naturally to some?
      I find that of late, I too tend to rush with answers and solutions and have to consciously hold myself back.

  16. Martha Orlando Martha Orlando August 25, 2015

    Listening is and act of love, and you’ve illustrated it so well here, Corinne!

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