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Now You Want Me Now You Don’t

Now You Want Me Now You Don’t! Fear of Intimacy: Ten ways to recognize it, and ten ways to manage it in your relationship
by Dr. Jeanette Raymond
published by Independent Book Publishers Association Members’ Titles

Book Description

In Now You Want Me, Now You Don’t! Fear of Intimacy: Ten ways to recognize it and ten ways to manage it in your relationship, psychologist Dr. Jeannette Raymond, a relationship expert, exposes the secret that 9 out of 10 calls to the therapist’s office come from men who crave emotional connection with their partners. She offers hope via a 10-point program enabling meaningful connections.

The book tells the story of Rick and Christy’s stormy relationship, tracking their lives from childhood before they come together, then taking us into Rick’s private sessions with Dr. Raymond after Christy storms out of the office, refusing counseling.

As Rick recounts his frustrations, he learns the many subtle ways in which Christy keeps him at bay because she’s terrified of emotional intimacy. But for each way she blocks him, Dr. Raymond gives Rick a strategy that enables Christy to let her guard down. Elated when he succeeds and heartbroken when she pushes him away, Rick persists with Dr. Raymond’s plan, determined not to give up on his marriage. Now You Want Me, Now You Don’t! is a handbook of winning strategies for couples who crave yet fear emotional closeness.

The author

Dr Jeanette Raymond is a licensed psychologist with thirty years of experience working in the United Kingdom with children , adolescents and adults and in California with couples. Her doctoral dissertation explored the elements of attachment and dependency that influence the choices single women make about their romantic partners. She  now works to help people use angry energy as fuel to propel them toward their goals.

now you want me now you don't
My brief review: [rating=4]

This is an excellent book for couples struggling to find real intimacy in their marriage. Told from the doctor’s experiences with a male patient who is struggling to find intimacy in his marriage. When his wife refuses to continue couples’ therapy, Dr Raymond convinces him to continue on his own. His journey towards discovery his own insecurities and his little triumphs with his wife. I enjoyed the perspective which reinforced many of my own beliefs of how the dynamics in our family of origin affects the way we relate to our partners.


Now You Want Me, Now You Don’t!: Fear of Intimacy: Ten ways to recognize it and ten ways to manage it in your relationship

Grateful to NetGalley for giving me a chance to review the book. In case you haven’t noticed, I’m a top reviewer on NetGalley. Just saying! 😉


  1. Lata Lata July 9, 2015

    It’s also the broader cultural and social group that surely affects the way we perceive and handle relationships, isn’t it?
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  2. Amy Amy July 9, 2015

    Thank you for the great post. I’ll have to check out this book. Take care.

  3. Amy Amy July 9, 2015

    This sounds like a great book. Thank you so much for sharing it and letting us know what it’s all about.

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