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The Right Attitude For Love

Somehow, the holidays often make single folk long a special relationship. Various circumstances make us alone. But sometimes it’s our attitude that keeps away true love. In this guest post, Sarah Fanning (from shares some ideas on having the right attitude for love.

The Right Attitude For Love

Finding someone new for dating and relationships can be a daunting task for many people. Past breakups, rejections and other painful events can make it hard for a person to move past the negativity and focus on a brighter future. However, having a positive attitude is essential for finding the perfect mate to go out with because everyone can pick up on the baggage that a person brings with them on a date. Therefore, anyone who is looking for love will want to take advantage of the following tips to have the right attitude about dating.

Create A Vision

Before beginning to meet new people; you should first decide upon what you truly want for your future. For example, a person who has always been a bit shy may decide that they would like to step out and try to find some adventure. It can also help for you to envision yourself as outgoing and loveable. Then, when you are out on a date, you will have a positive vision of yourself and your future. When potential partners pick up on this new self-view, they will be more likely to view you with a positive perspective. Think about what you would want from a partner and use this information to change how you behave and act to attract that special someone.

Focus On The Positive

Many people can talk themselves out of a date before ever walking out their front door. Negative thoughts often begin when a person is getting ready as you can constantly criticise your own appearance. Feelings of insecurity can bubble up and you may start thinking that your date may not like this or may not like that. These negative thoughts must be ignored entirely. Instead, you should focus on your positive attributes when getting ready. When a negative thought appears, it should immediately be turned into a positive. For example, a person who thinks they are too quiet should focus on their ability to think deeply about a subject.

We all have positive attributes to be proud of so don’t dwell on what you don’t like about yourself and think more about what you do like. It is also important to remember to keep things positive while out on a date. Positivity is a very attractive attribute in anyone, whether this is a friend or a partner.

Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.

Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Keep An Open Mind

Meeting new people and dating should always be viewed as an adventure. By keeping an open mind, you can be sure that whatever happens, it will be interesting and lead to an exciting story. With this thought in mind, you may want to try dating a different type of person, joining various clubs or going to different events. By increasing the opportunities to meet new people, you are instantly opening up yourself to the possibility of meeting someone you really click with.

We all worry about the unknown and there are always nerves involved in trying something new but there is also the excitement. Try to focus less on how nervous you might be and embrace a new adventure with a positive outlook. This is the risk that must be taken when looking for love, there is always the chance that you may be hurt but the possibility of finding what you’ve always wanted from life is reason enough for you to go for it.


  1. melissa melissa December 27, 2012

    Hey BS, I take this to heart :P… We’re heading towards the door of 2013 and I have to make a decision ;)… it’s that way or that away ahahaha…

    I believe in the right attitude thing πŸ™‚ Well, I’m lighting a fire to the scrooge mask then πŸ˜›

    Lots of love!

  2. Bella Bella December 20, 2012

    Corinne, Sarah has offered us many great tips. As I read them, I thought how wonderful it would have been to have had them when I was in that phase of my life. Like Sarah says, you have to embrace this venture with a positive attitude. And everything in lifle involves a little risk, love is no different. That said, it can be very daunting to put yourself out there but if you don’t develop the necessary valor, you run the risk of remaining stagnated. Wonderful post! πŸ™‚
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    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues December 19, 2012

      Yes, break ups are hard. But the human heart and mind does heal and we can move on. At least, I’ve found it so in my experience.
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  3. Jas Jas December 19, 2012

    Well thought out points. I don’t think so it is easier but sure can be done with more positive attitude.
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  4. Harleena Singh Harleena Singh December 18, 2012

    It’s not easy Sarah and Corinne – but nor is it impossible to find someone once you have broken up or separated. I guess the attitude is what really counts and if you are a positive kind of a person and can learn to overcome your past, anything is possible – isn’t it?

    There is always a risk like you mentioned, but then that risk is in any sphere of life and something worth taking than not trying it at all – I would go for it πŸ™‚

    Thanks for sharing. πŸ™‚
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    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues December 18, 2012

      Sure it’s not easy, Harleena. Past experience does dictate our future action – but there is no gain, without us taking the leap, is there? πŸ™‚
      Thanks for coming by and for sharing this post. β™₯
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  5. rimly rimly December 18, 2012

    Thank you so much for the useful tips, Sarah
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    • Corinne Rodrigues Corinne Rodrigues December 18, 2012

      Thanks for stopping by, Rimly. I’m keeping my fingers crossed that some lovely people I know take them to heart! β™₯
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