Finding My Voice

doing what it does best melospiza melodia 300x270 Finding My Voice

I’ve been going through the archives of my blog and deleting some old posts. I still have a lot of work to do on that. What am I removing? Loads of posts that were merely quotes with pictures and other posts that were copies of what other people wrote, published with due credit of course!

Why am I doing that? One is a very practical reason – to make my blog lighter. But the more important reason is to make sure that my blog is a reflection of me – what I have written. I started out initially writing my own stuff, but as the blog grew I felt pressure to keep posts coming and took the easy way out. Also, perhaps deep within I wasn’t confident enough about the quality of what I was writing? Would it appeal to people?

Given my background in training, I assumed that I would fit well in to the personal development niche. I read loads of personal development blogs and found that most people wrote a lot of ‘how to….’ stuff**. I attempted to do that – but didn’t do too well. The reason? It just wasn’t authentic to me. I found that I couldn’t really tell people ‘how to’ unless I was walking the talk. I couldn’t make a list of steps to follow, because I believe that everyone finds their own way. I can only accompany people on their journey, not give them a route map.

Finding My Voice

So, with a lot of urging from my husband,  I began more and more to write about  personal things. I began to write about my own journey, share lessons I’ve learned on the way, talk about ongoing struggles I have, and gradually I found my voice.

I can’t tell you how freeing that is. There is no pressure to be a fount of wisdom. There’s no pressure to compete with anyone else. There’s freedom to be silly, to funny, to be profound (!), to be inspirational (!!) – but most of all there’s the freedom to be me. And I’m grateful for the response I receive to what I write. You dear, readers affirm me. Thank you.

Each of us have their unique voice. It can be expressed in different ways, through your work, your art, photography, sewing, designing, social work and just about any other way that is you. The challenge is to find your voice and then sing loud and clear - be you!

Have you found your voice? Are you looking for it?

May you be inspired – every day!

DBF498476DC19B2AEBE6E1B0B6999793 Finding My Voice

** Please note, I’m not finding fault with bloggers in the personal development niche…but just stating that I don’t feel I belong there at all.

pixel Finding My Voice
 Finding My Voice

Comments

  1. Janaki Nagaraj says:

    And we love your voice!

  2. I too think it’s better to write from personal experience. It’s good to share what you have learned. I have been told that my blog is TOO personal, but on the other hand, I have been told the personal touch makes it more appealing. I prefer to go with my gut feeling, which is to keep it personal. And, after all, you don’t have to put EVERYTHING out there, just the bits you learned from and the bits you actually want and need to share.

    • Claire, finally our blogs are meant to be a reflection of who we are and we treat our readers as we would our friends (most of them are or become anyway!) – share things but don’t overload them with too much. ♥

  3. You are among the most fantastic voices in blogland, Corinne. :-)

    I like reading “how to” posts when I need them. But then there’s too many of them out there and I don’t really stick around those blogs for long because they all sound the same. Information is every where. But inspiration can only be found in another person’s experiences. Your voice is truly inspiring, Corinne. :-)

    Take care always and God bless! :-)
    Irene recently posted..Does It Make Sense??My Profile

  4. I, too, believe that everyone has their own path to find their own voice, to find their true selves. I love your writing, and it truly does inspire me and help me along my own journey to self-discovery and the deity that I believe lives in each one of us.
    femmefrugality recently posted..Frugal Cooking 203My Profile

  5. I am so happy and blessed to have found mine, Corinne. Know that I absolutely adore your most authentic, real-me voice! You are such an inspiration! Blessings, my friend!
    Martha Orlando recently posted..Putting Her Eggs in One BasketMy Profile

  6. This is such a wonderful and liberating step Corinne. I do find it easier to read blogs and understand a person’s journey through his/her experiences. It’s like allowing me to become a part of your personal story and walking the road together.

    Buon cammino :)

  7. Dear Corinne,

    This post brings tears to my eyes. Bravo! I love to watch you unfold into your most powerful self, what could be more inspiring! Wonderful insights here about what that means to you!

    I believe that finding one’s voice and cultivating that is a life-long process. Someone told me yesterday that my neck problems indicate “a need for Self expression. Speak your truth!” That made me laugh! I responded that I’m about the most self-expressive person I know and I don’t know how much more of my truth the world can handle on a daily basis — haha! But, the healing and empowerment process continues, right?

    I’m so happy to be on this journey of life and growth with YOU! Much Love XOXOXO
    Dangerous Linda recently posted..this momentMy Profile

    • Thank you so much for your love and belief, Linda. Whoever told you about self-expression certainly doesn’t know you ;) However, like you said, it’s an ongoing process of affirming ourselves and growing more and more confident to be the self we are meant to be. Journeying with you is exciting, Linda ♥

  8. Linda Lee says:

    LOVE, LOVE, LOVE THIS

  9. I believe I am still looking for my voice. :)
    I can totally relate to everything you have said here. I love to take the time and write from my heart, quality material…but every once in a while I get caught up and feel the need to post so that I do not lose any readers… but then I end up unhappy with what I have posted.
    I don’t know about you, but I have a hard time writing as often as I’d like…sitting still is a toughie. I bounce from FB to Blogger to other writing projects. Then on top of it, I am trying to find new recipes, keep the house up, work on craft projects and keep up on personal relationships.
    Whew. I’m exhausted just thinking about it. lol
    One thing I do know is that GYAAN is always inspiring. <3

  10. Elizabeth Young says:

    Slowly I am finding my own voice also Corinne. I’m not yet where I want to be, but have come an awful long way, with a little help and inspiration from my friends!
    Elizabeth Young recently posted..THINGS THAT TRAUMATISE USMy Profile

  11. Margaret Waage
    Twitter:
    says:

    You message is so lovely Corrine! I think when all is said and done, you (any person), has to do what they are passionate about even if no one comments! Of course it is nice when people comment. I always regard that as a gift of connection. But you can’t fashion yourself to numerous energies … you’ll wind up not who you are but who others think you are. Thank you for this message!

  12. The Social Frog
    Twitter:
    says:

    Yes, I have! Great post :)
    The Social Frog recently posted..Blogging From A To Z Challenge: NoMy Profile

  13. I’m a purger, too. Congratulations. This is a big step! All the best to you as you continue to find your voice.

  14. Hello Corinne.
    You so echo me. The reason I started my blog, with a little encouragement from a dear friend, was to voice my poetic thoughts.
    Just this weekend, a family member asked me why I always write about love. My answer was short and precise…love is who I am, what I know and what I write about. My blog is a therefore a reflection of me, my voice, my thoughts. Keep on being you Corinne…we wouldn’t want you any other way. Delightful post. Thanks for sharing.
    Andy recently posted..Day 14/16: NEGLECTEDMy Profile

  15. Corinne you have a very strong voice…I know you always inspire others.. and always inspire me..I love your personal journey so much.. it’s authentic and real…you let us see you….keep doin what you do….I love you…As always….XOXOXOXOXO
    Bongo recently posted..REJECTION / NELIETA..REAL LIFE SERIESMy Profile

  16. Let me first say that I love your voice and secondly, yes I have found my voice too. I too write from the heart and enjoy doing it, some like it some don’t but the bottom line is I am crazy about my thoughts, so I write…
    Sulekha Rawat recently posted..No RegretsMy Profile

  17. Everyday Gyaan says:

    Thank you… Martha, Lisa, Jimi Ann and Linda. ♥

  18. Interesting topic Corinne!

    I think you are doing and have done the right thing to lighten your blog, and have decided to keep post that you wrote yourself. I guess we all realize this sooner or later and finding our own voice is the most important thing we can do to make things roll on our blog.

    It took me some time too to get hold of my voice, but now I am comfortable with things and love sharing my personal experiences with the readers of my blog. I think you can write best about things that you know and have experienced yourself, rather than borrowed or copied stuff.

    But yes, sometimes I do like to put up a combination of my experiences along with some takeaway facts for the readers, or kind of learning lesson from the post. I feel that is the least I can do as a blogger or my way of contributing to the society. :)

    Thanks for sharing :)
    Harleena Singh recently posted..Why are Grandparents Parenting Grandchildren?My Profile

  19. I am sure you had found your voice by the time I came across it, it’s what drew me here for sure and keeps me coming back. I believe we move closer and closer to that the more we practice. I didn’t know when I wrote my first post what my subject was, but I knew it had to be something that ‘was me’. For now, it remains only a slice, but it is true one. I observe all else that is out there and I am content to come back to my not so active, but comfortable, little freedom area to express myself publicy. All part of the journey and enjoying sharing yours immensely, bonne continuation :)
    Claire ‘Word by Word’ recently posted..Orange Prize ShortlistMy Profile

  20. I went through a similar process, perhaps I’m still evolving. But I originally thought I was going to write a blog on Spirituality. I soon discovered I wanted to write about some of my struggles in care taking my mother and mother-in-law, for a while I didn’t really know what to write about. Now I write pretty much about whatever comes to my mind. I try to be creative and explore my new love of poetry and also include some of my life process and thoughts. I decided against writing too much about spirituality because, like you, I think people will seek their own way.

    What I know for sure, is that people really enjoy reading a blog whose author is authentic. That’s why so many people read you. The honesty of who you are jumps off the page. Hope I can do the same.
    Myrna recently posted..MEMORIES: THE SUBWAY IN NEW YORKMy Profile

    • Myrna, thank you for sharing. I love your blog because it so reflects you – thoughtful, sensitive and extremely creative. I think spirituality is a way of life and it will come through in what we write – as yours does!♥

  21. Corinne, this reminds me of the Wizard of Oz story, where Dorothy, the Tin Man, Scarecrow, and the Cowardly Lion went in search of what they’d already had all along. We all have that innate, God-given voice somewhere latent, somewhere in the depths of our souls. And yet, many go on an outward journey seeking the voice that is hidden within them. Maybe it’s the sea of other voices that drowns our own. In the blogosphere, that’s especially true. But there are a few bloggy friends I’ve met along the way that, on the contrary, fuel my own fire, make my own voice stronger. You are one of those. Thank you for being you!
    Debra recently posted..Those Peculiar PeopleMy Profile

  22. I really appreciate your perspective on this. Anything we write is going to be so much more authentic and meaningful if we’re not trying to fit ourselves into some expected mold, but rather speaking in our own voice, from our heart. Thank you for this!
    Dawn Storey recently posted..On speaking Canadian to an audience of AmericansMy Profile

  23. Corinne you are such an inspiration, I love your words and the way you encourage us all in the group and on our pages. You have been such a major support for me, I love you deary and I am so glad that you are finding your voice once again and finding some peace in that. <3<3<3 (((HUGS)))
    Jan Neel recently posted..Friday MomentMy Profile

  24. that is supposed to say “dearly” not deary…lol…
    Jan Neel recently posted..Friday MomentMy Profile

  25. This is very good post corinne, and its truly inspiring, I am still learning and in the process of finding my voice, I do believe that blog must be an expression of oneself – only then, it could be inspiring, writing every day can become a pressure, I am learning to be myself too, finding my voice in doing various other things I feel called to, and responding to my own situations makes me feel happy, I am so glad to read your post, for it also motivates me to be myself ! thanks corinne !

  26. There is only one you, sweet Corinne, and the world needs to hear all that you have to say whether funny, inspiring, or painful. I’m so excited for you. I love what you said about writing the steps to things. That was one of my hang-ups with the Christian world. Everyone was writing how-to books. The ten steps to spiritual warfare, prayer, fasting, forgiveness, getting prayers answered, receiving blessings….and on and on. It seemed as though everyone had a formula and quite frankly I was too tired to follow all of those formulas. You’re right, we each have a path which is uniquely our own and my formula might not work for you.
    Okay, I guess I had to get that one off of my chest. LOL!! Anyway, I love your blog and your true blue words Corinne…keep them coming!
    Hugs,
    Leah
    Leah recently posted..The Tango ContinuesMy Profile

    • Thank you so much, Leah. Your opinion matters a great deal. I know just how you feel about the ‘steps’ – I’m not sure why anyone would like to reduce God and faith to a list – sacrilegious, don’t you think?
      Love and hugs back!

  27. Hello Corinne,

    I am so glad I went back to visit your blog. I had been busy with my own and keeping up with everyone who has visited mine. Thank you again for taking the time to stop by my blog.

    When I started blogging about a year and a half ago I wasn’t listening to my “voice” so I couldn’t share it with the rest of the world. I lost the desire to blog and so I stopped. I decided to try it again this month and now I’m happy with what I’m doing. I’m a work in progress, and still fine-tuning the “voice” but this time I know who I am and what I want to write about. I know that I will not please all of the readers all of the time. But somewhere out there someone will be reading something I wrote that was Divinely meant for him or her at that moment in time. I trust this Divine timing in guiding what I write about. So while I do write with care I know that the ultimate message would be different for every reader. My life and who I am are the instruments that God will use to touch others.

    And this is why I know that you are a blessing to me.

    Thank you again for sharing your life and here’s to celebrating our “voice”…

    Best regards,
    Mary
    Mary recently posted..WishList of PLACES TO GOMy Profile

    • Thank you so much for sharing, Mary. I loved what you said about the Divine using our voices to touch others. This is the very reason I started blogging. I love visiting your blog because of it’s simplicity and depth and the fact that it reflects your life. Let’s drink a toast to our ‘voice’, Mary! ♥

  28. I’m not 100% sure, but I think the first time I checked your blog was after I read a comment you posted to Jodi’s blog, and since that time, I follow all you are posting. I am just starting to find my voice. I still don’t believe i did, but at least i am trying. Thank you for reading my posts. It encourages me a lot.
    nikky44 recently posted..The Child that is MeMy Profile

  29. How funny Corinne that you wrote about this. Just recently, I went back through all of my posts to get some old material for tweeting. I was amazed at the difference in not only format, but writing style. I saw tremendous growth! I’m not sure if I would be where I am today with my blog, if it hadn’t have been for the support that I have received from the bloggers I have met over the last couple of years. One of the main things that I noticed was that back then, I didn’t add many images. I am a big ‘image’ or ‘photo’ person. I believe that pictures can say so much more than words sometimes. When I go back through those posts, they look so bare to me now ☺
    Mary Hudak-Colllins recently posted..I’m So Sorry, Baby GirlMy Profile

  30. ***Would it appeal to people?***

    If I thought about this question, Corrine, I would have quit writing long ago.

    Once I decided to write for “myself,” this is when I found my true voice.

    Btw, I love your voice. <3 Xxx
    My Inner Chick recently posted..Inside The RainMy Profile

  31. Hi Corrine,

    I came across your site when I was looking for an appropriate picture to “ice”(as in cake icing) my recent post on finding my voice. I felt it written just for me, by me. I cannot describe what it feels like to see your exact thoughts in the way you would say it on someone else’s page. I initially started my blog as I was confused and lonely, despite having a near perfect life. Unlike yourself, my husband is not a huge fan of my work. But he is silent supporter of anything that matters to me. I am now almost at 400 posts within less than a year and wondering what next.

    I keep coming back to this post. Thought I would at least share my thoughts and say Thank you for writing.

    • Thank you so much for stopping by to tell me. Coincidentally just yesterday I wrote about how our lives might matter to people and we may not even know it – it seems the same is true of our writing isn’t it? We start to write to express ourselves and then begin to find other voices that resonate with ours. That is always an enriching experience. I think we’re all constantly wondering what next and our writing helps us to find that answer – time and again. I’m looking forward to reading your post and your blog. Thank you again for connecting!

  32. Hellooo!
    Thanks so much for just understanding what I meant.
    I really am feeling stuck these days. I must have come across your blog for a reason. One of those who believes that the universe is giving us a sign if we bother to notice. Let me see if I can find some of my clues through your words. Have a great weekend.

Trackbacks

  1. [...] I wrote about finding my own voice.  I cannot stress how important that is to me and to every person. The moment you try to imitate, [...]

  2. […] 3. Find your authentic voice. […]

  3. […] in yourself and in your own voice, because there will be times in this business when you will be the only one who does. Take heart […]

Speak Your Mind

*

CommentLuv badge