I had promised that I’d keep you posted on My Happiness Project. Perhaps you’ve noticed that I quietly updated My Happiness Project on the sidebar to February 2014.
Let me report my progress or lack of it from January.
Some of the main highlights were that I actually went for a walk more than half the month – which is good by my standards. Towards the end of the month, I got the ‘flu and then just gave up the walks. But I think resuming them will be much easier. However, I desperately need to work on going to bed earlier, so as to get up more energized.
I’m happy to report that I managed to clear out and give away quite a lot of household stuff, clothes and books. That made me feel so much better. I still have that nagging task to handle, but I’ve made a start with it, so I’m hoping to crack it this month.
This is what this month’s Happiness Project looks like. It’s all about love – very appropriate in February. While Gretchen Rubin’s project for February revolved around her husband, I’m trying to move beyond to family and others in my life.
I know that my whole effort to be more grateful for what I have, including a great relationship with Jose, has made a big difference to our marriage. I am more understanding and accepting because I’m grateful for having such a wonderful companion in my life. However, I can be quite a nag and poor Jose gets the worst of it. This is something I’m focusing on letting go of this month. So far, I can safely report, it’s going well. But that’s my side of the story – you’ll just have to ask him if he sees things any different! 😉
There is something I’ve learned after being married for seven years – we can and must improve ourselves as individuals, but we must always be striving to be better companions to our spouses. I can only work on being a better me, but when I become a better me, I find that the quality of my relationship with my spouse improves too. Less expectations and more focus on improving ourselves. I know it has worked for me.
While it’s easy to give proofs of love in gifts and fine words, it’s always hard to give proofs of love – in small daily acts of kindness to our spouses and family. What better proof of love than to spend more time with them listening, understanding, laughing. I’m attempting to do that.