Zeenat Merchant Syal is a Practicing Counseling Psychologist/Spiritual Counselor and Naturopath with degrees in Motivational and Counseling Psychology. She also holds degrees in various fields of Holistic and Naturopathic Medicine. Her blog, Positive Provocations, focuses on Positive Thinking through Healing the Mind, Body, Heart and Soul. Zeenat says she istrying to heal the world one blog post at a time – spreading positivity, motivation, inspiration, love and Happiness.
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Nudge Your Dormant Happiness
We have all been hearing and reading so much about Happiness.
How to find happiness? How to be Happy? How to …..blah blah blah….the books on the subject are endless, and the money people have made cause of this very topic are millions and millions. Everyone seems to want to cash in on this rage of Happiness.
But, is it really a rage?? Or is it our own insecurities and unhappiness, that is giving these money making books(which are only slightly helpful), the fuel to become national or international bestsellers?
This is not going to be one of those articles where I tell you how to find happiness. Why? Simply cause I believe happiness is within each and every one of us. We need not look for it elsewhere. We don’t need to search for happiness, because it can never be found!
It’s inside of our hearts and just needs a bit of a loving nudge from our side. What can you do that will nudge this dormant happiness to come out and be felt and experienced? 1, 2, 3, 4…that’s it!
1. Give Give Give– Give with all your heart and soul. Give your love, give your affection, give your smiles, give your time, give whatever you can to those who need it. Whether it’s the poor, whether it’s your family, friends, neighbors, acquaintances or just someone who passes you by on the street. Give whatever you can and see how good you feel. That feeling, that is happiness that you are feeling…right there when you give something to someone. It’s indescribable yet felt so deeply…sometimes you just break down.
2. Help Help Help– Helping another human being is the simplest task in the world. Yet we have made it out to be such a big deal. It’s simple, just open your heart and talk to another person. Know and understand what it is that’s troubling them, and help. Help in whatever way you can. Sometimes just talking to another person, lending a loving ear is help for that person. Just being there for someone when they need support, is help. Babysitting your neighbor’s kids for an hour or two while she runs an important errand is help. But help from your heart and do it with a genuine smile on your face and in your heart. The feeling that comes of being of service or help to another human being is Happiness. You feel it when you see the other person you ‘re helping breathe a sigh of relief.
3. Love Love Love– Loving has been grossly understated lately. I don’t mean the muah muah on the cheek showoff kind of love. I mean the real genuine felt from the heart and soul kind of love. Love everyone, love everything. Love the good, love the bad, love the nice, love the not so nice, love the mean and rude, love the shy and moody, love the small faults, love the little things, love everything! It’s Simple, yet it can be a daunting task if you’re used to feeling from your mind ONLY! Do every act with genuine love without even a hint of malice within you and see how you feel. That feeling of bliss and clarity, that’s happiness.
4. Purpose Purpose Purpose– We are all living a life that has been overshadowed by our past experiences. Our life’s purpose today has become having money and leading a comfortable life. But, is that really a purpose that brings you happiness? A purpose is something far greater than that and no amount of material objects like big cars or big houses or big money can bring you even remotely close to that purpose. YOUR Purpose of being in this world….what is it? The minute you have discovered your purpose for living..you will have hit an all time jackpot of happiness.
Happiness can never be found. You can read umpteen books. You can attend hundreds of lectures. You wont find it anywhere but within YOURSELF. The key is to know yourself and then as simple as 1 2 3 4!
GIVE, LOVE, HELP, PURPOSE
What is my definition of Happiness? A state of euphoria that comes from overcoming the hallucinations of the separate self. Happiness, that has reason, is usually a form of misery as the reason can be taken away from you at anytime. I am a happy person because my life has love, meaning and purpose.
Happiness means soulful bliss in all aspects and walks of life.
A lover of words. A self-acceptance blogger. A blogging coach. A book reviewer. A woman happily journeying through midlife, moving from self-improvement to self-acceptance and enjoying being herself.
Corinne writes at Everyday Gyaan, reviews fiction at CorinneRodrigues.com and encourages writers and bloggers at Write Tribe and offers offline coaching to writers and bloggers at The Frangipani Creative, located in Secunderabad, India.