I welcome one of the friendliest and talented bloggers I have the honour to know.  She is the most gentlest of souls and yet a fierce voice for women, especially those who are victims of domestic violence. Kim Sisto Robinson writes at My Inner Chick. Today, Kim shares what she learned from the tragic and brutal death of her beloved sister, Kay.

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Dear, Corinne, thank you for allowing me to Guest Post on your beautiful blog today. I am honored to be here in Mumbai to talk about my dear sister, Kay, who was murdered by her husband on May 26th, 2010. It was the saddest day of my life.

11 Things I’ve Learned Since Your Murder

It was a fine cry, loud and long, but it had no bottom and it had no top, just circles and circles of sorrow.” –Toni Morrison

1. drinking bottles of wine, praying for death, and trying to figure out ways to escape my new reality did not work. I had to walk directly, fully, and completely through the fire.

2. when somebody tells you who they are with words and actions, you better damn well believe them from the very beginning.

3. murder, deception, and darkness can happen in your own family. I know. It happened in mine.

4. no matter how ferociously you want to save somebody, you cannot. NO. That person can only save themselves.

5. the human body is capable of weeping uncontrollably for 365 strait days without ceasing. I find that fact astonishing.

6. God Lives.

7. the preparation of the past prepares you for the future. For example, I memorized the 23rd Psalm two months before my sister’s murder. After her murder on May 26th, it was the only prayer I could remember.

8. mourning never ends; it is only born into the world with its sharp- ugly- good for nothing claws. The pain must be woven into your new existence.

9. In the midst of your darkest hours, light finds a way through open windows.

10. the body may die, but the love endures forever and ever and ever.

11. my sister is NO LONGER a victim; she is now part of the solution to END domestic violence.


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Our family will have the 4th annual Kay Marie Sisto Walk To End Domestic Violence on May 31st, 2014. Info Here: http://www.theduluthmodel.org/events.html

Video of Kay’s Last Days / No More Silence:

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This post is written for the letter ‘K’ for the Blogging From A to Z April Challenge 2014.