Do you play the blame game? I know I was quite an ace at it. There are times, even now, that I might lapse into playing that game, but I often call myself out and stop.
Playing The Blame Game
Watch this video to see the blame game in action.
Like Brené Brown says blame is a way of gaining control of a situation. It is also a way to deal with our discomfort and pain.
Blame prevents us from acknowledging our pain, from talking about our true feelings. It’s easier to blame than to own our feelings. It’s easier to say, “It’s all your fault….” than to say, “When you do this, it makes me feel unwanted/ unloved….”
It’s easier to blame than to take responsibility for our behaviour. There’s no doubt that we learn from the patterns of behaviour modelled for us. However, we don’t have to continue to behave the way we learnt to. We have choices.
Blaming involves us hiding from the truth. It calls for us to admit that we are helpless and the victim of another’s words, behaviour or action.
No more blame. No more victims.
“When we feel good about the choices we’re making and when we’re engaging with the world from a place of worthiness rather than scarcity, we feel no need to judge and attack.”
― Brené Brown
I’m choosing to stop playing the blame game! What about you?
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