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Celebrating Change #MondayMusings

51 yesterday.

And I’m celebrating change.

I look in the mirror and see a face different from the one I saw a few years ago. Yes, I have aged, put on weight and changed. But these are changes that can be seen and things people remark about.

The changes that not so many people mention, at least to my face, are the changes in the way I interact with others and how opinionated I seem to have become. When an ex-colleague wished me yesterday and called me a ‘gentle’ wordsmith, I corrected him and said that I wasn’t so sure of the ‘gentle’ part. I was schooled to be gentle. Told not to raise my voice. And in the bargain, I somehow lost my ability to truly stand up for myself. Now the ‘gentle’ woman has given way to a much fiercer version of me – actually, the real version of me. Authenticity rules!

At times I hear myself talking, and say, ‘Hey, when did you become so vocal?’ At other times, I have to tell myself to go easy and realize that silence is the best response to a particular situation or person.

I’m balancing my relationships much better and that’s something to celebrate.

More cynical?

I’ll admit, I’ve become more wary of people. I no longer take things and people at face value. From the trusting, open soul I used to be, I’m  more cautious and guarded in some ways.

A few people may find that I’ve become cynical, and perhaps I have, if cynical means that I no longer buy their stories or jump to rescue them from the messes of their own creation.

Somewhere along the way I’ve realized that I am an introvert and it takes a lot of energy for me to interact with people, especially in large groups. That’s a huge realization, and it brought about a lot of change. In the past, I’d force myself to attend parties and make visits out of a sense of duty. Now I’m quite happy to skip several social occasions that sap my energy without feeling the slightest guilt.

I’ve also learned to cut off or minimize contact with people who drain me or bring drama into my life or who are just plain mean or jealous.  I read this today and it well articulates what I’ve been unconsciously doing:  You need to align yourself with people who fit your destiny not your history.

The biggest change I celebrate within myself is that I am no longer apologetic about my choices and my behaviour. Only I know how hard I’ve worked to bring change within myself, to become stronger, to make better choices.

Openess And Gratitude

Another change that I celebrate  is that I am now much more open to other people’s choices. For example, I have grown from thinking that homeosexuality is a sin, to being someone who will stand up for the freedom and rights of the LGBTQ community.

Perhaps, the biggest cause of celebration for me is that I’ve learned to be grateful for my blessings and even for things that seemingly go wrong. I see everything that happens as a life lesson. Yes, I might grumble for a short while and then I realize everything works for good and that somewhere down the road I’ll figure out why that particular bump came my way!

It’s the same with all of us. Only the individual knows the battles they’re fighting. Only you know how far you’ve come and where you want to go. Know that I wish you well on that journey.

We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.
– Maya Angelou


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  1. Gilly Maddison Gilly Maddison August 15, 2016

    Oh goodness – Happy Birthday for yesterday – how did I miss it on FB?! Hope you had a lovely day. Yes, the changes we go through really seem to pick up pace after 50 don’t they? I notice it in myself and in my aging parents – for me, it takes a lot of willpower to accept it as the circle of life and not be sad about the changes. I do try though!

  2. Mackenzie Glanville Mackenzie Glanville August 13, 2016

    You need to align yourself with people who fit your destiny not your history.

    I love that!!! It is so true, such wise words! I have changed a lot over the past 2 years, but in some ways it is not so much that I’ve changed it feels more that I have come back to who I was always meant to be, does that make sense. #mg

  3. Lata Sunil Lata Sunil August 12, 2016

    Happy birthday again Corinne. Its good to see so many changes. Atleast you are still growing and adaptable to changes around you. I have noticed that since we are much wiser(!) now, we can now just cut the crap and get down to business without worrying to make others happy.
    So good to have met you in the blogging world.

  4. Payal Agarwal Payal Agarwal August 10, 2016

    Perfect timing, Corinne. I can relate to this post. Loved it!
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  5. Beat About the Book Beat About the Book August 9, 2016

    Happy birthday again Corinne. We all change as we grow. And it is good, right? Some amount of cynicism in inevitable. I’d much rather call it loss of naivety. I’ve changed too of course – become more confident, a little less bothered about what people think of me. But I still have a long way to go to be the person I would like to.
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  6. Subha Rajagopal Subha Rajagopal August 9, 2016

    Yes.People change over time.It is a result of their experiences in life.

  7. Ramya Ramya August 9, 2016

    Can relate to your post very well Corinne. I too had changed a lot through all these years. Learned to be brave and strong. Learned to deal things smartly. Became more outdoorsy and outspoken.

  8. Kat magendie Kat magendie August 9, 2016

    What a lovely blog! And I could have writte this post myself. Through my 50s I’ve become this whole other person in many ways. I’m the cliched “reclusive novelist living on a mountain” and find people fascinating but sometimes exhausting. Drama: go away! Speak my mind: it’s either that or I zip my lips and walk away *laugh* I like my independence and strength.

    Love this post.

  9. Anamika Agnihotri Anamika Agnihotri August 9, 2016

    I have changed over the years. I have changed from that shy, quiet, fearful, low self-esteem, always assenting girl and a woman into this woman who no longer repents in her mind for anything. Neither for her need to be in quiet and solitude nor for staying away and not calling up even closest of relatives for their unmatchable capacity for drama, judgement and negativity. I am gentle in my ways and do not give my opinion on anything unless I know it is going to be valued and at the same time I wouldn’t do something I do not intend to do knowing how to decline and refuse. I am fearless and there are very little things which can create a ripple in my peace. Now I think I should have done a post on this because there is lot more to me. Majority of these changes have happened in the past year with my association with like minded bloggers and you Corinne.
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  10. Anita Anita August 9, 2016

    Change is welcome;
    Change is true.
    Change is inevitable
    For me & you!

    Belated b’day wishes, Corinne.
    I can connect with your post, especially the “gentle” part!
    Now, even I have noticed similar metamorphosis in my life 🙂

  11. Vishal Bheeroo Vishal Bheeroo August 9, 2016

    I have changed a lot over time, from being apologetic in trying to be myself…I am still a work in progress but yeah, I articulate my opinion and stay away from toxic people. Like you, I am also an introvert and there was a time I was trying to be someone else but not anymore. This post is pepping right now, Corinne. Time now, to celebrate who we are!

  12. sheela sheela August 9, 2016

    We get a wider view from a certain height…and same is the case with our wisdom. While reading your post I felt as someone is speaking from my side…so relevant!
    Once again, happy b’day Corinne!
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  13. Jennifer Jennifer August 9, 2016

    Happy Birthday! I was the shy one growing up, I even remember hiding behind my parents’ legs when someone tried to talk to me. Not anymore. (I guess just blogging means we’ve broken out of that shell!)
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  14. Rajlakshmi Rajlakshmi August 9, 2016

    A very happy birthday to you … and hope you had an amazing day.
    I was a very very gentle girl while growing up… I mean being an introvert didn’t help either… but as I grew I realized I can speak up … and strongly too. I like this new version of me. I am still somewhere between a ‘gentle’ and ‘strong’ phase but still an introvert when it comes to socializing. People find it hard to believe but they don’t realize how fear grips my heart when I have to meet new people 😀 Few more years and I will get over it too 🙂 As you said only individuals know the battle they are fighting.
    A very beautiful and Thoughtful post 🙂

  15. Tamuria Tamuria August 9, 2016

    Happy Birthday, Corinne. What a fantastic way to celebrate it, by rejoicing in the changes you recognise as making you stronger and more authentic. Life teaches us the importance of being less gullible and relying more on our instinct than blind trust in others. We also become more protective of our time and energy and I think that’s a really good thing. Thank you for an inspirational post that is full of gratitude.

  16. Alana Alana August 9, 2016

    I have changed over the years. I am more comfortable (at work and in private life) to speak up if I disagree with something. I celebrate being an introvert. I have an inlaw who has bullied me about being an introvert (I don’t think she will ever quite understand and I’m past trying to educate her) and, in the past year or two, I’ve (verbally) pushed back. Interesting how bullies react when they get pushback. I have less patience for family melodrama. After experiencing the death of my childhood best friend last year, I also have the attitude that “life is too short”. And, happy belated birthday to you!
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  17. Tina Basu Tina Basu August 9, 2016

    When I sit down to think – I guess I am little wiser and growing more patient as I am growing old. May be that’s for good. Happy birthday once again. I am linking up for today’s #MondayMusing

  18. ajay ajay August 8, 2016

    Well, life lessons do teach us a lot and accordingly one should be able to shape up for good. But then, you an introvert did not go down well with me. 🙂 But if you say so, well then yes! 🙂

    You are an inspiration to many of us! Wanted to let you know this. 🙂
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  19. Haralee Haralee August 8, 2016

    Happy Birthday and wishing you continued growth and acceptance in the woman you are now! I have eliminated the negative and drama people from my life and those I have to associate with on a very limited basis. I actually do not invite to my home anyone, family or friends who has bad energy. I meet in Starbucks or some other neutral location than my home, or my business!
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  20. Debbie D. Debbie D. August 8, 2016

    Happy Birthday once again, Corinne. 🙂 Wishing you all the best for this year and beyond! The greatest thing about ageing is that we become more and more comfortable with our true selves and aren’t afraid to make our opinions known. I think most of us do become more cynical as well, based on the number of bad experiences with other people. Life is too short to be a doormat, yes? Excellent points, here!
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  21. Modern Gypsy Modern Gypsy August 8, 2016

    Beautiful post Corrine! There’s so much that resonated with me, and so much that I still need to learn. What I am working on now is accepting myself – more specifically, my body. I’m done with letting people & the media dictate what my body should look like. It’s still a journey, but I can almost see the end, and that makes me super happy! 🙂
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  22. Sunaina Sunaina August 8, 2016

    Beautiful post Corninne… one grows, one changes…..from a seed to a sprout to a plant…..there is much to learn along the way…..I liked the way you candidly confessed your misunderstanding of the LGBTQ community and the fact that you were able to overcome it…..

  23. Nabanita Nabanita August 8, 2016

    I used to be very quiet and never voice my opinions. I’m not that girl anymore. I never felt the need to say yes when I actually wanted to say no and that has stayed thankfully. I don’t take nonsense lying down anymore which is mostly good but sometimes I wish I don’t get into confrontation.still learning, still growing

  24. Leanne Leanne August 8, 2016

    Oh Corinne we are peas in a pod when it comes to discovering our true selves in midlife. I love that we can be authentic and own who we really are and we can distance ourselves from the drama and rubbish that we don’t want to be a part of. Happy slightly belated birthday my friend xx

  25. Darla M Sands Darla M Sands August 8, 2016

    We seem to share many personality traits and even their evolution. I still need to stand up for my opinion more in even little ways. It irritates me when I don’t and then some project goes sideways because I didn’t demand what I felt certain would have been a better course of action. Oh, well. I’m a work in progress. Be well!

  26. Carol Cassara Carol Cassara August 8, 2016

    when we can look in the mirror as midlife women and like what we see? It’s a great thing. It’s a successful life. Hope this year is the best for you!

  27. Rica Rica August 8, 2016

    So many of my truths exist in this post, I could’ve written it. I was praised for being the “quiet child,” and that led me to keep my mouth shut at all times in order to please everyone. So glad that with age also comes wisdom. I’m finding that the older I get, the more confident I become. It’s exciting to finally step out and be the person you were meant to be! Wonderful post! And happy belated birthday to you 🙂

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