Humans are naturally sociable creatures. It’s not very often you see people going out to eat or watch movies alone. We go to vacations with friends or partner; we even go out with our pets sometimes. Why do we feel awkward or left out when we are alone? We fear what people might think; the fear of being labelled as weird, anti-social, a snob or an outcast. It is this fear that keeps us from experiencing the perks of being alone.
All man’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone. – Blaise Pascal
The Perks of Being Alone
It is in the solitude and the quiet that we really get to know who we really are. There’s no distraction, there’s no one to talk with. You end up asking yourself what you need, and you think about what makes you comfortable. You have only yourself to worry about, and no one to impress to adjust to. You get to reflect about your life; the lessons you learned from your past experiences, you get to assess where you are right at this moment, and you have a clearer mind so you can plan better for your future.
When you’re always in a crowd, you always need to take into consideration the people you’re with. You constantly need to think about how they’re feeling, or how your action will affect them. This could be draining. Spending time with yourself can help you get back or recharge the energy you lost being with people.
As you become more connected with yourself, you also heighten your senses. You become more aware of your surroundings. You become more sensitive to nature. You become more sensitive to other people when you get to be with a group again.
There may be things you want to do that you cannot because your schedule does not synchronize with your friends’. Or maybe they’re not up for it. That’s okay. Who says you can’t do it alone? Go and enjoy what you have always wanted to try by yourself. Go enrol in a lesson or attend a training of the field you’ve always wanted to learn more about. Go travel solo once in a while. Go relish your time alone. There is a certain sense of accomplishment when you get to do things alone. Relish that feeling.
Solitude is a great place to prepare yourself for the world. It’s where you become whole, so you can share your whole self to others. It is in solitude where you become more productive as you get to focus on your tasks and accomplish more without distractions. Being alone allows you to feel more independent so you don’t need validation from others. This means you are more emotionally healthy which will make you ready to take on whatever life has to throw at you.
Having someone around all the time has its own benefits. That is undeniable. It’s good to have someone to help you carry a heavy object, someone you can talk to when something’s bothering you, or someone you can share your joy and sorrow with. But once in a while, we need to find time alone. We need to disconnect with people, so we can connect with ourselves. So we can recharge, and be the better version of ourselves when we face the world again. Everybody benefits on the perks of being alone.
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